One more thing

[kimberle.livejournal.com]

Can any of you tell me more about the differences, more on a technical level, between a vaginal orgasm and a clitoral orgasm? I want to know the mechanics of what happens, why it happens, and why some like one over the other. And, if at all possible, what my friend means by (and I couldn't get this answer out of her) about clitoral ones being more "harsh." I'm rather confused.

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[the-great-maker.livejournal.com]

can't help you really from personal experience (as i don't think i've ever really experienced a vaginal orgasm), but i saw this (http://www.vulvavelvet.org/survey.html#15%20Do%20you) the other day.....

by 'harsh', i am thinking maybe your friend meant 'intense'? just a thought..

[scien.livejournal.com]

This is a very complicated subject and there is no consensus that I am aware of. People get off on all kinds of things, and a lot of it is mental, not just caused by differences in anatomy - some people are able to easily get off from only clitoral, only vaginal, or indeed only nipple or only mental stimulation, while others don't, or don't regularly, or find things feel different when they are combined... it's highly individual, and we've not nearly been able to fathom the whys and wherefores and hows of it all.

Orgasm is more than just a physical reaction, it's not like you press X so Y happens leading to an orgasm. People get off in all kinds of different ways, and stimulation of various bits simply feels a certain way for some people and a certain way for others.

Your friend's description is indeed a little confusing, but really she is the only one in any kind of position to explain what she meant. That said it can be pretty difficult to try to communicate something so very subjective. My guess would be that she finds clitoral stimulation borderline painful because it is very intense, but she could be trying to get at something else entirely.

[archangelbeth]

*nod* E.g., for me, an orgasm that is triggered by non-clitoral stimulation (or at least non-direct...) is usually more diffuse-feeling. Clitoral ones are stronger, "sharper" feeling, but have a lot less build-up, which is kind of... a let-down, actually, at times, for me. I've read stuff about some people finding non-clitoral stimulation more powerful (maybe it's the increased buildup?), and some people can't get orgasms at all without the clitoris getting some attention.

[ultimatumtime.livejournal.com]

for me (and please note, this is just ME.. like everyone else said, it's different for each individual), clitoral stimulation is almost too "intense" for me to handle. I've never, ever been a big fan of clit stimulation; I've always been a g-spot girl. however, last night I had my very first clit orgasm from my husband's tongue (sorry for the TMI!) and I don't think I have ever felt anything like it. I think, for me, the reason I've never had one before that is because, like I said, it is just so intense that I usually have to stop the stimulation before I actually get anywhere close to an orgasm from it. whether it's from a vibrator or whatever. I guess a good way for me to explain it is like when someone is tickling you, and it feels so good and then they hold you down so you can't move and tickle you and tickle you and tickle you until you're laughing so hard you're crying and almost peeing your pants, and you're BEGGING them to stop-- even though it does feel good. was that a good analogy? sorry if I'm not making any sense. I get to the point where it feels so good that it almost hurts, and then I have to stop. the only reason it worked for me last night was because he practically strapped me down to hold me in place (so I couldn't move away when it got "too much!" hehe), and I guess the prolonged stimulation without moving was the key to getting off.

as for the technical, mechanical aspects of clit vs. g-spot vs. other types of orgasms, I can't really help ya there. I just figured maybe if I shared a personal experience / opinion, maybe it'd give you a better view on what your friend possibly meant by "harsh."

hope it was helpful! good luck (: