painful problems

[dandielle14.livejournal.com]

i'm not looking for a diagosis, i'm just wondering if anyone has ever gone through what i am currently going through.
I recently lost my virginity to my fiance. When we had sex for the first time it hurt quite a bit so i had to stop. The next time we tried it it didn't hurt as much but i still wasn't able to finish. we had tried it quite a few times but everytime we did it was like he was rubbing me raw inside and that feeling made me loose interest. my fiance takes a long time to finish so he was affected by this too. is there any way that i can stop this from happening, or get more into it? i feel like im doing something wrong.

Also, after we started having sex, every morning i will wake up at 6:30 (way too early) with a burning in my vagina that would keep me up for hours. It also smelled like burnt rubber. At first I thought that i had a yeast infection so i took the medicine but it still wakes me up EVERY morning. It also burns when I pee. What in the world is wrong with me?

Comments

[margery-kempe.livejournal.com]

the same thing happened to me when i first started having sex. it took about 6 months before it stopped because my body simply didn't produce enough lubrication. try to use lots of lube, that helped me until my body got used to producing it on its own.

[dandielle14.livejournal.com]

the part about not being able to orgasm, or the burning?

[margery-kempe.livejournal.com]

both

[lady-eldawen.livejournal.com]

If the problem isn't resolved by making sure you're using plenty of store-bought lubricant and that plenty of foreplay and arousal is going on before initiating intercourse, it's time to get into a GYN to investigate other causes.

It sounds like you could be dealing with a different infection besides yeast, especially if there is an odor with your discharge and pain when you urinate. If you come out clear for infections, your doctor should investigate other causes like vaginismus or vulvodynia. Good luck!

[nebulosity.livejournal.com]

LUBE! Srsly. :D

And I experienced the same burning pain every morning when I first started having sex too. I rarely get that anymore.

[cloudshapes.livejournal.com]

are you using lube and/or condoms? try to use lube, even if you feel like you naturally are wet enough not to need it. and use a LOT of it. i've been having sex many years and i still get sore, every time.. lube has become my best friend. though, even with it i'm still sore a lot with my current bf and i think it's due to his size.

as for the condoms, are you using latex ones and if so, might you be allergic to them?

are you having a lot of foreplay ahead of time? it really helps get your vagina ready. it could be too that it's just a new thing and that's why it is hurting you, so just try to be gentle with your movements and relax as much as possible, use lube, & plenty of foreplay!

[dandielle14.livejournal.com]

we do practice a lot of foreplay and are useing latex condoms. Im going to switch to non latex just to be sure and ill take your advice and use lube for sure.

thanks so much guys.

[tyrsalvia.livejournal.com]

That sort of pain sounds a lot like what happened to me when I used latex condoms before I realized that I have an allergy! Definitely give those a try. Also if you're interested in trying something new that would result in a fair bit less friction, you might want to try the female condom too, since it's also polyurethane.

[whoa-breathe.livejournal.com]

On the topic of condoms, are you using spermicidal ones? I was quite allergic to the spermicide in those condoms, and had very similar symptoms when I first started having sex....the constant burning feeling, and actually the spermicide would give me a yeast infection, which I would treat, and then it would return as soon as we used the condoms again. Because I was swollen and raw from the allergy, sex was painful as well. I looked it up, and it turns out that many women are sensitive/allergic to a main component of spermicide: Nonoxynol 9. Problem went away as soon as we switched to regular condoms.

[willow-starr.livejournal.com]

Burning during pee is a sign of a urinary tract infection (UTI), there's lots in the archives about them but in general try to be sure you pee right after intercourse (whether or not anyone came).

[dandielle14.livejournal.com]

oh, i didn't even know that was an issue. thanks for the tip.

[lunaadmirer.livejournal.com]

i believe you're supposed to pee before intercourse and also afterwards if you can. i am usually able to tinkle out a bit more later. i guess after all the movement going on... hahaha.

[tyrsalvia.livejournal.com]

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[polymexina.livejournal.com]

i'm allergic to spermicide, but clearly didn't know that til i had sex the first time, and it felt like burning badness the entire time. i thought it was just me, but THEN i noticed when we used condoms at my place, without the spermicide, it was way better.

so i'd recommend letting your girl bits calm down some, getting some not spermicide condoms, and using tons of lube. make sure the lube is condom safe! i recommend id glide or revelations by passion parties.

[erinstotle.livejournal.com]

to add to your comment, when i had sex with spermicide condoms, i definitely noticed more of an "rubbery" odor. i am also allergic to it.

[polymexina.livejournal.com]

yeah, me too... but i wasn't sure if that was a brand thing or what... like, crown condoms don't even taste like condom, let alone smell like them.

[tornattheelbo.livejournal.com]

you probably have a UTI. You need to pee after sex EVERY TIME. You don't need to jump up immediately, but within oh, 10-20 minutes would be good.

and get yourselves some good lube. You can get it almost anywhere these days. That should stop the rubbing-you-raw feeling

[starzysky.livejournal.com]

I second this.

PEE AFTER SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The one & only UTI I ever had was due to not peeing after sex - why oh why didn't my mom tell me this? Since then I go every time & have never had another UTI.

[asscollection.livejournal.com]

Same thing happened to me a couple months ago. I was sleeping in my boyfriend's dorm and I didn't want to take the "long trip" to the girl's bathroom so I didn't go. That was Saturday... had a UTI by Monday morning.

[dandielle14.livejournal.com]

yeah we have always used latex. i didn't think it would be a problem.

[tintinabulitis.livejournal.com]

about the rubbing raw: I was experiencing the same thing, and it SUCKED because I loved sex with my boyfriend but I hated having sex because it hurt :( GET LUBE!! Seriously, best purchase we ever made. No more sore/dried out girlie bits.

but definitely check into the possible latex allergy. good luck!

[dandielle14.livejournal.com]

will do! thanks

[justreadmyspine.livejournal.com]

"the part about not being able to orgasm"

If you just had sex for the first time, I would NOT expect to orgasm anytime soon. It took me a year and a half to orgasm from sex with my fiance (and it's only happened that one time).