next time tell him that you think there needs to be more foreplay! wait until you are super duper aroused and it will go smoother. Invest in some good lube, take things slow, and tell him that it doesn't have to hurt if you take it slow and put enough effort into it. But its not supposed to be work, its supposed to be fun.
Beginning your adventures in the world of the sexually active can be very scary! There are so many potential consequences of having a sexually active relationship, both physical and emotional, I don't think many people realize (initially) the extent that the emotional dynamics change in a relationship once you start having sex, there's a lot that happens. Just take it slow, don't do anything you're not comfortable doing, and keep up communication. If you feel comfortable showing your partner what feels good it will foster good communication and help a lot. Its supposed to please both of you, not just one of you, remember? Its a give/take process, you should reap the rewards too.
Spotting length depends on the extent of damage, and soreness too. Take a bath and soak, that may make you feel better. Or as some people have mentioned in the past, a bag of ice/frozen peas/something cool put over your crotch (not necessarily directly, through clothes is fine) can take away some discomfort in the region, be it from overly enthusiastic lovemaking or first time issues. Cramping isn't unusual either, keep in mind you just started doing something that we're evolved to do, and your body may just be realizing that. ;)
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Date: 2007-01-19 06:06 pm (UTC)Beginning your adventures in the world of the sexually active can be very scary! There are so many potential consequences of having a sexually active relationship, both physical and emotional, I don't think many people realize (initially) the extent that the emotional dynamics change in a relationship once you start having sex, there's a lot that happens. Just take it slow, don't do anything you're not comfortable doing, and keep up communication. If you feel comfortable showing your partner what feels good it will foster good communication and help a lot. Its supposed to please both of you, not just one of you, remember? Its a give/take process, you should reap the rewards too.
Spotting length depends on the extent of damage, and soreness too. Take a bath and soak, that may make you feel better. Or as some people have mentioned in the past, a bag of ice/frozen peas/something cool put over your crotch (not necessarily directly, through clothes is fine) can take away some discomfort in the region, be it from overly enthusiastic lovemaking or first time issues. Cramping isn't unusual either, keep in mind you just started doing something that we're evolved to do, and your body may just be realizing that. ;)
Good luck, and have fun.