pain during sex

[cutiekitty.livejournal.com]

I wasn't sure where else to turn, so...

recently I went to visit my boyfriend who moved to another city. When we began to fool around, he penetrated me with a finger and I felt some pain in my vaginal opening... I thought perhaps it was due to the lack of any sexual activity for a month, though I wasn't sure why this would be. [a month doesn't seem like a terribly long time] We attempted intercourse anyway, because I hadn't seen him for a month and, well, I was a bit frisky. Soon after we had to stop because the pain was too much, and I didn't want to damage myself. I hadn't noticed any pain up until the point of penetration, and after a couple days once again felt no pain. This was last weekend. Tonight I am feeling a pain in the same place, but I am not doing anything to cause this.
Sorry that was so long, but I do not know what could have caused this. The only thing that I have done differently lately in regards to sexual health and activity is start on Depo Provera. I would like to try and figure out what is wrong, but I don't even know where to start researching.

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[necromimesis.livejournal.com]

There are a few things that can cause pain with penetration. The ones I know about are thrush, lack of lubrication, and conditions such as endometriosis and ovarian cysts.

The best thing I've found to do if you have pain is go slowly, use ALOT of lube, and stop if it hurts (because who wants to have painful sex?). If it happens again you might like to see your doctor and have a pelvic exam and have swabs taken, in case you do have an infection (like thrush or b.v.). They can generally be pretty easily and relatively quickly cleared up :)

I recommend you see your doctor, explain that you had pain with penetration and then a week later pain without penetration and she what s/he has to say.

Ah, one last thing. I was abstinent for 2 months whilst I was off the pill, and after that my vagina had tightened up quite a bit, and it took me a couple of tries to get sex back to normal. If you don't penetrate your vagina whilst you're away from your boyfriend that might be causing the same thing for you (in that instance).

I'm afriad I'm out of ideas, I hope you find out what's causing it soon

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[cutiekitty.livejournal.com]

Well, I know that it wasn't caused by a lack of lubrication because we lubed me up pretty good ;)

I guess the best option is really to go see my doctor... which is ordinarily what I would do in the first place. However I am reluctant to see my doctor as my last few [actually all of my] experiences with him were uncomfortable and less than satisfactory for me. I am not really sure how to go about finding a doctor I am more comfortable with, but this is a problem I need to address soon...
Thank you for your reply :)

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[necromimesis.livejournal.com]

No worries, sorry I wasn't of much help :)

You could post here on VagPag and give you general location, see if anyone knows of a good, friendly doctor nearby (I've seen a couple of women do that here).

I hope you find a better doc, the one you have currently doesn't sound very good :/

[darkprism.livejournal.com]

If the pain continues at random, ie, without sex or any other form of penetration, you might want to check out vulvodynia, vaginismus, or dyspareunia. Those sound deadly, but they basically just add up to nervous disorders that makes penetration difficult and/or impossible. I've been a sufferer of vulvodynia for about 6 months off and on. If you have any questions, I'll be happy to answer them. More than likely, the combination birth control, nerves, and period of abstinence caused your problem. I can relate to that too. :P Just be wary of continued pain for these reasons and those listed above.
Good luck and feel better!

[rothko.livejournal.com]

this also sounds like it could be vestibulitis -- often goes hand in hand with vulvodynia (lucky me, i've got both). it's a problem with the tissue near the opening of the vagina that basically results in a LOT of pain when touched. physical therapy and certain medications can make dealing with it all a lot easier -- but be warned, the average gyno doesn't know much about it, so if your pain continues and you decide to see a doctor, make sure you find one who knows what they're doing, or they'll just send you home with a pat on the head and some ibuprofen. (heh, no, i'm not bitter or anything...)

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[cutiekitty.livejournal.com]

but be warned, the average gyno doesn't know much about it, so if your pain continues and you decide to see a doctor, make sure you find one who knows what they're doing, or they'll just send you home with a pat on the head and some ibuprofen.

something that has made me a bit reluctant to visit my doctor so far is that I don't really find him to be that proficient and helpful to me, plus I am uncomfortable around him. He is actually not even a gynocologist, he is our family doctor.

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[cutiekitty.livejournal.com]

what do you mean by a nervous disorder?

[mangofandango.livejournal.com]

it is possible to tighten up quite a bit in a month - i know i do!

but it does also sound like a possible infection. sex hurts me whenever i get a yeast infection, and it hurt this past time when i found out i had bacterial vaginosis (also a treatable, common infection). in fact, that's usually how i find out i have an infection!

so if i were you, i would probably go to the doctor just to rule those things out. have you had any abnormal discharge or anything else like that?

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[cutiekitty.livejournal.com]

i haven't had any abnormal discharge at all that i have noticed, otherwise I would have got straight to the doctor. I couldn't find any symptoms of common infection that seemed to match this. Most infections seem to cause pain on the inside as opposed to the opening, which is what made me wonder...