vaginapagina | lack of oral and other sexual frustrations (Reply)

My boyfriend hasn't gone down on me in about 2 years. In the beginning of our relationship he tried it a few times and it felt really great for me, but ever since then he refuses saying "another time". When I ask why, he simply says "I just don't feel like it". Of course I've wondered if it's my smell, taste, look, etc, but he says that it has nothing to do with me, he just has to be in the mood. Since he hasn't been in the mood in 2 years, I told him that he should just admit that he doesn't want to do it at all rather than giving me false hope by saying that he'll do it another time.

I used to give him oral because that was the quickest way of getting him hard and he enjoyed it, but after he stopped going down on me, I stopped going down on him and it doesn't seem to phase him.

What's so frustrating is that I frequently hear of women complaining that their partner's want to go down on them, but they don't enjoy it and I have the opposite problem! Also, I have a pretty big sex drive, always have, but due to my boyfriend's long work hours, we hardly have sex because he's too tired.

What gets me is that there's not much that can be done about it. He works two jobs to support us while I only work one. He feels that I have no right to complain about our infrequent sex because I'm not working as hard as he is and I can't argue that.

I'm just so frustrated. I feel selfish, yet at the same time justified in my feelings. I do have a vibe and I use that when I really need to, but it doesn't make up for our lack of intimacy.

How do yo deal with being with someone, but not having your needs met? I'm 23 and feel like I'm too young to be having an unsatisfying sex life.