Pregnancy question

[malificati.livejournal.com]

Yes, this is on topic, so please don't ban me. Thanks.

Erm, I have a question. At what point are women not allowed to have sex, or sex would be harmful to the cervix or vagina during pregnancy? I have heard it rumoured that a woman is supposed to cease sex with anything (man or object) when she is starting her third trimester.

Thanx to the people who answer...

Comments

[https://users.livejournal.com/-moondancer-/]

I think it really depends on your situation and you would have to talk to your midwife or doctor. I do know that semen helps to get your cervix to dialate because my midwife did a sweep and stretch where she inserted her finger into my cervix in order to loosen the mucus plug and encourage dialation and then I was instructed to go home and have lots of sex in order to try to start my contractions since I was past due. I was also told by her that I was allowed to have sex the entire pregnancy with both my oldest son and with the twins. As far as I can tell, unless you are in danger of having preterm labor you are fine to have sex but maybe since there is something in the semen that helps to prep your cervix for dialation then you may want to use a condom just to be safe.

[neversremedy.livejournal.com]

This is basically what I was told as well, that sex is healthy throughout a standard pregnancy, the semen helps bring on post-term labor when it needs to be induced naturally, and women should abstain *after* the birth for about six weeks (until the bleeding has stopped and a midwife or doctor has determined her uterus and cervix have gone back to a normal state). There are always exceptions to each rule, so as was said above, a discussion every trimester with doctor or midwife seems the best course of action.

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

I've heard that, too, and know women who had sex (including intercourse) up until their water broke.

[racing-turtle.livejournal.com]

Sex during pregnancy is fine as long as the woman wants to be having sex and your care provider hasn't explicitly told you not to have sex. It is very unusual for sex to be ruled out completely during the third trimester and that is generally in cases of concern about preterm labor. However if you have a partner who is telling you they aren't allowed to have sex in the third trimester it may just be them telling you they aren't in a space where they feel comfortable having sex and that should be respected.

[pillu.livejournal.com]

I agree with the 3 women above, sex is perfectly healthy during pregnancy unless you have specifically been told not to have it, or you dont feel like it. Acorrding to my mum, all she wanted while pregnant with me was sex, and dad says he used to get pounced at the letterbox... and I turned out fine :D

[gigglinggorgon.livejournal.com]

my Dr encouraged sex through the entire pregnancy. Orgasms strengthen the muscles. The fear is that in late pregnancy the contractions of orgasm could induce labor, but that's only if it's ready to come anyway or if there's a problem.

Mostly I think a pregnant woman should ask her Dr about it on an individual basis, but if all else is good there shouldn't be a problem.

[necromimesis.livejournal.com]

*confused* Why would you be banned?

[rockstarbob.livejournal.com]

My question exactly.

[jaclyn.livejournal.com]

I don't get it.

[therealocelot.livejournal.com]

Sex during pregnancy, including the third trimester, is perfectly fine up until the waters break (generally within 24 hours of delivery). At that point, there is a risk of infection.

The exception would be (as others have mentioned) if there is a risk of miscarriage or pre-term labor, or other complications. If you do end up having complications, ask your doctor whether or not sex is ok.

Many women don't want to have sex during the third trimester, though.

[kyriedj.livejournal.com]

My ob said both times that I could have sex as long as I felt comfortable. Both times, my cesareans were scheduled for the 39th week so my water never even broke and I didn't even go into labor. I was told to abstain from sex after the birth for 6 weeks which may've been influenced by the cesareans.

Your Doc may've banned you for some specific reasons regarding your individual health. Ask them to explain.

[maedbh7.livejournal.com]

And like anything else with the body, if it hurts, don't do it. Meaning, as the pregnancy progresses, old positions may not work anymore and new ones will need tried. If the angle, the size, the shape, the speed, the lube isn't helping or is hurting, you may have to do something different for a few months. Oh, the hardship, right? ;) Have fun :) -H...

[punkrawkmama77.livejournal.com]

As long as your water hasn't broken and you're not at risk for pre-term labor, you should be fine. However, keep in mind that orgasms from masturabtion, especially with vibrators, can be strong enough to start labor, so be careful on that front!

[nsoroma79.livejournal.com]

I had sex until I was just too darn big! I think the last time was actually about 36 or 37 weeks...but like everyone said, go for it until you are told otherwise! Have fun and enjoy it now!