Just to clarify, "monogamy" doesn't have to mean "celibate"! You keep saying the word like you think you almost deserve to not be having much sex just because you've both decided to keep it to each other only. But that's totally not true. I love me some monogamy and I love me some sex, and the more of the latter, the better. If I saw my boyfriend all the time and didn't have sex with him for THREE MONTHS, I'd be crawling the walls too!
It sounds like you're putting more into this than you're getting back. Like others have said, if there's still happiness to be found in this relationship, then by all means seek out couples counseling because your words don't seem to be making a big enough impression on him for him to want to change. But if not... then I would say the time has come to end it. You stood by him for the paternity suit, but your problems aren't with him having a kid, they're with lack of communication and lack of intimacy. As long as it's clear to him that those are the issues that you cannot handle any longer, not the paternity suit, you are still keeping your word.
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Date: 2006-12-11 05:26 am (UTC)It sounds like you're putting more into this than you're getting back. Like others have said, if there's still happiness to be found in this relationship, then by all means seek out couples counseling because your words don't seem to be making a big enough impression on him for him to want to change. But if not... then I would say the time has come to end it. You stood by him for the paternity suit, but your problems aren't with him having a kid, they're with lack of communication and lack of intimacy. As long as it's clear to him that those are the issues that you cannot handle any longer, not the paternity suit, you are still keeping your word.