people have lost friends, sanity, the ability to have a happy relationship, and years of their lives to abusive relationships. and when one's in one of those relationships, it's really, really hard to step back and see it for what it is. that's why a friend needs to tell them that he or she is worried sick and wants to know where the bruises come from and wants to know why they're living together if they're making each other miserable. i would suggest you keep name calling to a minimum - obviously your friend doesn't think her boyfriend is an asshole, so labeling him as such will alienate her.
but you're right to actively care. yay for being a good friend. =)
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Date: 2006-10-21 11:56 pm (UTC)people have lost friends, sanity, the ability to have a happy relationship, and years of their lives to abusive relationships. and when one's in one of those relationships, it's really, really hard to step back and see it for what it is. that's why a friend needs to tell them that he or she is worried sick and wants to know where the bruises come from and wants to know why they're living together if they're making each other miserable. i would suggest you keep name calling to a minimum - obviously your friend doesn't think her boyfriend is an asshole, so labeling him as such will alienate her.
but you're right to actively care. yay for being a good friend. =)