getting help for an abused friend
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vaginapaginaThis isn't vagina related, but it most certainly is women's health related. I'm scared to death and I really need some good advice.
From what we can gather, my friend's boyfriend is untreated bipolar and a very severe alcoholic. We've known that they have had problems, but in the past she has always shyed away from telling us the full story. We were able to gather, however, that there was some really twisted mental abuse going on. Also, some of our friends have noticed bruises on her arms that would be consistent with someone grabbing her. Lately things have taken a nosedive though. Her boyfriend is putting her through sheer mental torture. He's just breaking down her will, making her feel like a waste of life for things she didn't even really do, things that weren't her fault. Last week I had to go to her house (they live together) and beg her to come stay the night with me after she called me telling me that she wanted to die because of what was going on with him. She seems to reacting in a typical manner to that type of abuse. She keeps saying how much she loves him, how she wishes she wasn't such a fuck up and could make everything better- pretty much blaming herself for his problems that are out of her hands and saying that she deserves the abuse. We can't talk any sense into her. She'll leave for the night, but then he'll call her and sweet talk her into coming home. She'll act like everything is great and it will all start over again. This happens 2-3 times a week now. I'm terrified for her, but I have no idea what to do. She is an amazingly talented illustrator in her senior year of art school, and I don't want to see it all stripped away from her because of this asshole. Please give me some advice here. I really need to save my friend.
From what we can gather, my friend's boyfriend is untreated bipolar and a very severe alcoholic. We've known that they have had problems, but in the past she has always shyed away from telling us the full story. We were able to gather, however, that there was some really twisted mental abuse going on. Also, some of our friends have noticed bruises on her arms that would be consistent with someone grabbing her. Lately things have taken a nosedive though. Her boyfriend is putting her through sheer mental torture. He's just breaking down her will, making her feel like a waste of life for things she didn't even really do, things that weren't her fault. Last week I had to go to her house (they live together) and beg her to come stay the night with me after she called me telling me that she wanted to die because of what was going on with him. She seems to reacting in a typical manner to that type of abuse. She keeps saying how much she loves him, how she wishes she wasn't such a fuck up and could make everything better- pretty much blaming herself for his problems that are out of her hands and saying that she deserves the abuse. We can't talk any sense into her. She'll leave for the night, but then he'll call her and sweet talk her into coming home. She'll act like everything is great and it will all start over again. This happens 2-3 times a week now. I'm terrified for her, but I have no idea what to do. She is an amazingly talented illustrator in her senior year of art school, and I don't want to see it all stripped away from her because of this asshole. Please give me some advice here. I really need to save my friend.
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