Both my partner and I tend to get cranky if we don't "get" sex regularly. Fortunately, our sex drives are so matched up that this rarely happens.
Being in a relationship where your sex drives don't align can add a major source of stress to the relationship. It can make one partner feel neglected/unloved, and the other feel like a piece of meat/pressured. It takes major communication and work to overcome this obstacle, because the only way it's going to work is with a compromise.
I think it's best to be discussing this with your boyfriend. The two of you have to decide if you are going to be happy with both of you constantly compromising. If neither of you is willing to budge, then it may be easiest to end the relationship.
Sorry if this sounds blunt at all; I've been in your shoes, and it sucks. My advice is to keep in mind that life is short, and there really are other options out there (in spite of what it sometimes seems), so only stay if you feel you "want" to... That is all. :)
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Date: 2006-10-09 07:22 pm (UTC)Being in a relationship where your sex drives don't align can add a major source of stress to the relationship. It can make one partner feel neglected/unloved, and the other feel like a piece of meat/pressured. It takes major communication and work to overcome this obstacle, because the only way it's going to work is with a compromise.
I think it's best to be discussing this with your boyfriend. The two of you have to decide if you are going to be happy with both of you constantly compromising. If neither of you is willing to budge, then it may be easiest to end the relationship.
Sorry if this sounds blunt at all; I've been in your shoes, and it sucks. My advice is to keep in mind that life is short, and there really are other options out there (in spite of what it sometimes seems), so only stay if you feel you "want" to... That is all. :)