I find it important to point out that someone who is being abused is in the most danger at the moment they disengage from their abusive partner, and for the period of time immediately following the disengagement. Ask at any battered women's center.
I understand the importance of communicating with one's partner, but if that partner is abusive (physically or otherwise) the rules change. Abusive, controlling people don't react well when their partner brings up their concerns with the relationship. The OP stated that there was unwanted physical contact and that she was scared. I would err far on the side of caution. I disagree that she needs to tell her partner, I think she needs to tell a counselor trained in risk assessment of domestic violence.
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Date: 2006-10-09 01:36 pm (UTC)I understand the importance of communicating with one's partner, but if that partner is abusive (physically or otherwise) the rules change. Abusive, controlling people don't react well when their partner brings up their concerns with the relationship. The OP stated that there was unwanted physical contact and that she was scared. I would err far on the side of caution. I disagree that she needs to tell her partner, I think she needs to tell a counselor trained in risk assessment of domestic violence.