cant orgasm during sex

[midnightsphinx.livejournal.com]

Alright, I have no proublem having an orgasm, or even multiple ones... but I cant recieve one through intercourse. This has never really bothered me, but I have been growing curious as to what that may feel like.

I have done different positions with my partner, and although they feel REALLY GOOD, its more of this consistent, "nice" feeling, as opposed to the rising peak of an orgasm.

Is there any tips you can give me? Or can some people just simple *not* orgasm during intercourse?

Comments

[autumnfaerie.livejournal.com]

I don't think many women can orgasm through just straight intercourse. Many are able to, though, through using a vibrator or just manual clitoral stimulation while having the PIV sex. Have you tried that?

[hoodwink.livejournal.com]

I never knew there were different types of orgasms until I started reading this community. I have only orgasmed from clitoral stimulation. I can have an orgasm during intercourse but I have to be on top (I've had some while being on the bottom but only once or twice--its too exhausting to try and orgasm that way) and when I am on top I just end up moving in such a way that my clit is stimulated.

I heard you don't have many nerve endings inside the vaginal canal but there is the Gspot, so maybe you need to see if you can get into a position where that will be stimulated during intercourse.

[kuni-bob.livejournal.com]

The only way I can orgasm during sex is if there's constant, even pressure on my clit, which, through sex alone, is really difficult for both my partner and I (the angles and rhythm require some mild acrobatics due to the way our bodies mesh). Usually I stimulate myself in other ways instead.

[storychick.livejournal.com]

I have always found it difficult, but found it easier after my kids were born. Don't know why. I almost always need to be on top for it too.

[versusjill.livejournal.com]

I got extremely lucky with my current partner (also first PIV orgasm). I typically have to be on top, but when I am if he pulls and pushes on my thighs/hips that usually causes it to happen. It's a suuuuper intense climax (whole body) and usually lasts longer than clitoral with out the spasming. One indicator for me is that i will get a tingle up my spine.

Good Luck!

[pinkgatorgirl06.livejournal.com]

It's never happened for me, and I'm not sure if I've ever even been close. IT can happen if I'm using a viberator, but other than that if there is no clitoral stimulation, nothing happens. It makes it to where sex just isn't necessary for me at all


and what is a PIV

[summer-breeze14.livejournal.com]

Penis In Vagina (:

[chotix.livejournal.com]

Can you orgasm easily with clit stimulation?

I sometimes do but sometimes don't cum through PIV, but toons with a clit stimulation. I found this position that worked wonders!

It's called "grinding the corn" as known as Coital Alignment Technique, which stimulations the clit (the base of the penis) and g-spot done in missionary position but he is laying alittle higher than you (cupping his hands around your shoulders), instead of him going in and out, it's up and down (rocking movement)

http://www.womenshealth.org/a/coital_align_technique.htm
http://www.sexdictionary.info/cat.html

[midnightsphinx.livejournal.com]

thanks! I will give it a try!

[zellie-bean.livejournal.com]

I've had a PIV orgasm without major clit stimulation maybe 3 times. With clit stimulation it's a bit more frequent but still difficult because I have to be on bottom, totally relaxed and getting in the clit action while getting the PIV and the physics of it aren't really easy XD I like PIV and all, but I usually finish with oral :x

[jilicious.livejournal.com]

I have a hard time too sometimes, but find it's easier if you focus on your vagina. Like, close your eyes and relax your muscles, and just sort of let yourself open up. I've found that the sensation of the pumping is really hypnotic and it feels more sensual. Sexy!

[monkeygirl04.livejournal.com]

i recently took a sexual behaviors class at school and learned that only about 8% of women can have vaginal orgasms without some sort of clit stimulation...so your not alone out there! best of luck though (sorry i have no tips on how to help any lol)

[eclare.livejournal.com]

Nearly 80% of all women are not capable of having an orgasm without clitoral stimulation. Intercourse without an extra hand or device usually can't stimulate the clitoris enough to be useful. If you're interested in an investement - there are a lot of items for couples that are meant to stimulate the clitoris which are easier (and less likely to lead to crushed fingers) than manual stimulation. Your local sex toy shop has helpful staff.

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

also
http://www.blowfish.com
http://www.babeland.com
http://www.goodvibes.com

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

Are you getting any sort of clitoral stimulation during intercourse?

[midnightsphinx.livejournal.com]

Well, not unless its a really fast, constant rythem, do I feel clitoral stimulation. But that would take a long time and a lot of work for him, if I could achieve an orgasm that way.

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

When my husband and I have sex, we mess around a bit before intercourse, then once we start intercourse, I usually manage to keep my fingers on my clit and work myself into orgasm that way. That doesn't need to be a lot of work for him.

I've been sexually active for about 20 years, the sex gets better pretty much year by year, and I still have had maybe a total of two or three orgasms without clit stimulation.

[stenodork.livejournal.com]

first of all, i have to be really stimulated to begin with.
so that means lots of foreplay.

i can only have an orgasm through PIV sex if i'm on top and totally control.
that means my husband CAN'T move at all.
no thrusting, nothing.
so it's just me, lying on top of him, grinding him.
it sounds kind of awkward, but i want my turn too!

we usually can't do this until he's about to ejaculate because otherwise the stimulation doesn't work for him and he loses his boner.