I had a similar experience when I first tried (except it wasn't in such a loving relationship, and I was nervous as hell).
From my own experience, that blockade an inch in is the start of the really tight ring of vaginal muscle. This is what holds your vagina closed, normally (your vagina is like a collapsed/flattened tube, rather than a round and open tube). When you hit this, you might want to crook your finger forward and also bear down with your muscles (trying to push outwards). That might help. Also, make sure you're using lube.
Having this difficulty with penetration & inserting your finger doesn't necessarily mean you have vaginismus. As other replies have said, it's really quite normal to have pain at the start - especially if you're not used to inserting fingers.
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Date: 2006-07-18 10:07 am (UTC)From my own experience, that blockade an inch in is the start of the really tight ring of vaginal muscle. This is what holds your vagina closed, normally (your vagina is like a collapsed/flattened tube, rather than a round and open tube). When you hit this, you might want to crook your finger forward and also bear down with your muscles (trying to push outwards). That might help. Also, make sure you're using lube.
Having this difficulty with penetration & inserting your finger doesn't necessarily mean you have vaginismus. As other replies have said, it's really quite normal to have pain at the start - especially if you're not used to inserting fingers.