I generally think a lot of it has to do with performance anxiety. I was the same way with my boyfriend when we first started messing around, and it took several tries before he started being able to get me off at all, much less with any consistancy. The more comfortable I got with him, the easier it was.
My suggestion: masturbate in front of him. Show him how it's done. Not just so he can see what buttons to push, but also just so you can get over the psychological part. When I first started messing around with my boy, I'd start to worry about it because he was so determined to get me off that I eventually just couldn't. Like I could feel how badly he wanted me to cum and so my orgasm would just vanish. You may not think it's a factor, but it still could be. At first, mine couldn't get me off for anything. Not from oral, not from fingering, not from PIV, nada. But eventually we got oral to work, and now he can do it with one hand. I usually help, but it's not even always necessary.
And I mean, shoot, we've been having sex since Decemberish... didn't have my first orgasm with him until mid-January, then until like March, and he wasn't able to start getting consistent with it until just the past 2 months or so. So we've been screwing for 6 months and I didn't start to cum often until the last 2. Just have some patience.
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Date: 2006-07-18 03:11 am (UTC)My suggestion: masturbate in front of him. Show him how it's done. Not just so he can see what buttons to push, but also just so you can get over the psychological part. When I first started messing around with my boy, I'd start to worry about it because he was so determined to get me off that I eventually just couldn't. Like I could feel how badly he wanted me to cum and so my orgasm would just vanish. You may not think it's a factor, but it still could be. At first, mine couldn't get me off for anything. Not from oral, not from fingering, not from PIV, nada. But eventually we got oral to work, and now he can do it with one hand. I usually help, but it's not even always necessary.
And I mean, shoot, we've been having sex since Decemberish... didn't have my first orgasm with him until mid-January, then until like March, and he wasn't able to start getting consistent with it until just the past 2 months or so. So we've been screwing for 6 months and I didn't start to cum often until the last 2. Just have some patience.