painful sex and orgasms

[groupieforhire.livejournal.com]

Hey everyone. I have three random questions which (I think/hope) are pretty unrelated.

The first is about orgasms, in response to the multiple orgasm post below. Forget multiple orgams; are there women who simply can't orgasm from intercourse? It took my current boyfriend 3 months of trying, but (unlike those before him) he succeeded orally and we haven't had much of a problem with that since. Vaginal, on the other hand, usually feels nice, but I've never felt orgasmy, if that makes since. Are there a lot of women like that?

Question number two... anal... any ways to make it less uncomfortable?

And question number three... sex has always been pretty painful for me. Mostly sort of a stinging kind of pain; we have to stop somewhat often, and the only way to make it stop hurting is usually to take a bath (the hot water seems to help a lot). I've gotten it checked out, but haven't gotten any good answers. It's not BV, 90% chance it's not endometriosis, etc. Could it just be that my boyfriend's a bit, well, large? Any other ideas?

Thanks in advance for your help!

Comments

[hufflepuppy.livejournal.com]

As to 3 - I have the same problem. He and I have a long distance relationship so we're only together for a week and a little every few months so with months on my own- I tend to return to a rather unstretched state, and by the end of the week I'm not loose per se, but its less uncomfortable. I think its just sometimes, you sorta have to get used to their body a little? I think that's possible.

Also, stinging- definitely with you there. I've found that i usually sting a little after, either from the stretch or the friction or whtaever else- a warm washcloth, if you don't want to take the time for an entire bath is usually pretty nice, too.

as to 1 - I think its strange that all depictions of sex in more or less common discussion/view say its common and likely and normal, but its sort of less common. A bit unfair I think. I finally got so frustrated i Bought a iVibe, left it off and had an experiment to see if I even could. And I can, but not with out some positions i"m not sure would be really practical with two.