I have the same problem, and yes, I really do see it as a problem.
Foreplay aside, my partner's ideal time for intercourse is probably 40-50 minutes. Mine is more like 10-20 minutes.
After an orgasm, even a "weak" one, there is a period of time where I pretty much can't stand to have my genitals touched.
What's worked pretty well for my partner and me is something like this:
-- PIV sex for X amount of minutes, until I orgasm or until I get bored (yes, I sometimes get bored during sex) -- then me pulling away from him and performing fellatio (other ways of "teasing" also work here) -- when I'm sufficiently "desensitized," more PIV sex, generally until we both orgasm
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Date: 2006-03-07 05:03 am (UTC)Foreplay aside, my partner's ideal time for intercourse is probably 40-50 minutes. Mine is more like 10-20 minutes.
After an orgasm, even a "weak" one, there is a period of time where I pretty much can't stand to have my genitals touched.
What's worked pretty well for my partner and me is something like this:
-- PIV sex for X amount of minutes, until I orgasm or until I get bored (yes, I sometimes get bored during sex)
-- then me pulling away from him and performing fellatio (other ways of "teasing" also work here)
-- when I'm sufficiently "desensitized," more PIV sex, generally until we both orgasm