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[waveof-fashion.livejournal.com]

Hey all, I'm new here..but I've been lingering around this community for a while. I think the advice you all give is wonderful, and I was hoping you lovely people could spare some of this splendid advice for me!


So my boyfriend and I are planning on having sex for the first time (we're both virgins), I wanted your opinion on what is the best brand/type of condom and lubricant to use. Also, I found a tube of KY Plus Lubricating Spermicide in my closet (I assume it belongs to my parents..and if it doesn't, thats weird.) have any of you guys used this? What was your experience with it? Would it be bad for a first timer to use (especially since I don't know how my body would react to spermicide)?


I was also wondering if there was possible way of acquiring birth control pills in New York without needing a parents permission. My mom has no problem with me being sexually active..I just don't feel quite comfortable about asking her yet. If theres no way for me to get BC without my parents permission..could any of you be kind enough to reassure me that a condom, and a condom alone, will keep us safe for a while? I'm just really paranoid and I keep thinking that the condom is gonna break on us =/..but yeah..that's just me being neurotic.



One more question, this is just out of pure curiosity. Is it bad/unhealthy to have sex while a woman is on her period ("the party pooper" as my boyfriend calls it heh) ?



Thanks so much everyone! All your help is VERY MUCH appreciated =)

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[orangewrath.livejournal.com]

Yes, I did the same exact thing! When I told her I was having sex a few months later, she felt betrayed because I had lied to her (even though she flipped a shit and is STILL flipping a shit about me having sex..this happened almost two weeks ago) about why I wanted to go on BC, and I can proudly say that this was the only time I have lied to my mom- I just kept telling her it WAS for my period, we weren't having sex/planning on it, etc..it hurt a lot to lie to her, but she was just so devastated. Maybe I'll tell her AFTER I move out, have kids, etc...then she can't kill me! :P

Anyway, if your mom's ok with it, I would just go to your doc for it. They'll have your family history and stuff if you all go to the same place, so it's much more convenient. Also, just try lube and no spermicide. It irritates most women and if you're already using a condom or BC (save for a diaphragm) it's kind of an overkill and if it's going to irritate you and possibly give you an infection, there's really no need. :D You and your boyfriend should both know how to correctly put on a condom (http://www.teenwire.com/interactive/do-archive-movies.php), the video is to the right of the page and there's also other helpful things on their about body image and BC.

Make sure to talk, take it slow, etc. I'm sure you know all of this, but your first time CAN be made fun and it doesn't have to just be painful. :D Good luck.

[waveof-fashion.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much for the story and advice, it really helped! =)