Intercourse Comfort

[makayasmom.livejournal.com]

A few days back I had posted about vagina shrinkage, and received some great replies. Now I have a follow up question.

I'm attempting a cut for the first time, so please forgive me if it doesn't work.

Are there any positions I can try or exercises I could do to make sex less painful? It's been about 1.5 years since my husband and I last were intimate, and I have no idea when we will resume, but I would like to be prepared when we do. We tried about 4 or 5 months ago, but it was just too painful, so I made him stop. He didn't even get all the way in (I would say he maybe got 1/2" in), and it's not a friction issue either. I was plenty ready (sorry if TMI). It seems to be strictly a size issue (I'm too small or he's too big, how ever you want to look at it).

Thank you for any help and/or suggestions you can offer.

Comments

[lost-988.livejournal.com]

First of all, I would try masturbation. Just start with the clitoris at first, and from there, move on to fingering yourself(one finger at a time, otherwise that would kinda hurt). After you're comfortable with that, go buy a small vibrator. See what feels best. It might take a while, especially if you haven't had sex in a long time.

When you feel ready enough to have sex, talk to your husband about sex. I say talk first because even though you two are married, it has been a while since you've had sex, so it would probably be really helpful to know what each other likes. When it comes to the actual love-making, I've read that a good position for a woman who is either a virgin or hasn't had sex for a while is woman on top. This way, the woman can control the amount/position of penetration.


Hope that helped. :)

[six58.livejournal.com]

wow. i cant imagine going that long without sex.

but yes. masturbate. it should help.
take a warm bath too...and try inserting fingers while you're in there.

[jadey-mcshadey.livejournal.com]

I'm guessing from your icon that you've had a baby recently. Do you think the tightness could be a result of the birth? If so, you should talk to your dr or ob/gyn. I've not had a baby, but I could see how that could effect your bits.

To the rude person who commented above, there are other things besides penetration that can satisfy both partners.

I agree with masturbation and definitely try being on top.

I hope you solve this soon.

[makayasmom.livejournal.com]

Actually, I had a c-section, so I don't think the birth really affected my bits. I was only 4 cm dilated when they decided to do the emergency section. I tried to talk to my midwife about it, but she seemed to think it was all just a friction thing. I tried to explain it wasn't, but she kind of blew me off. That’s why I posted here. :)