Vagina lovin' help requested

[aimingforpeace.livejournal.com]

Can anyone recommend some books/inexpensive videos on how to communicate your sexual needs to your lover? I've got a friend who's having some major issues with her relationship - a big part of it seems to be sexual incompatability. The guy she's involved with isn't very experienced, and she doesn't know how to tell him what she wants. I'm trying to dig up my copy of Nina Hartley's Guide to Oral Sex to give to them, but don't know of any other guides that are actually worth their salt.

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[salmonsushi.livejournal.com]

try watching berman & berman with your partner - it's on every thursday night around 11ish on discovery health.. hope you have that channel!

[aimingforpeace.livejournal.com]

Thanks

[magicmitsuki.livejournal.com]

The way to communicate your sexual needs to your partner is this:

Tell them.

To spice it up a bit, start having sex, then talk dirty to your partner while you tell them what you want. Then ask in return.

Example:

You: "Ohhh... baby, nibble my shoulder, that makes me so hot~*"

or

You: "Ohhh, baby, what do you want me to do with that cock... Mmmm..."

...and so on.

If that doesn't work... then maybe there's something ELSE wrong with the relationship.

[magicmitsuki.livejournal.com]

sorry... I just re-read that and it sounded insanely patronizing and condecending. I didn't mean it that way, I ment it to be humorous. :)

[aimingforpeace.livejournal.com]

LOL np. I was actually trying to get her to try that, but she's not seeming to gung ho about actually "pillow talk."

[cailin-t.livejournal.com]

i mean.. just tell him! lol, i'm not sure what you mean - does she not know what she wants or what the guy's supposed to do and that's why she can't tell him? :x

[aimingforpeace.livejournal.com]

Pretty much. I guess she doesn't know what she wants? She says the one fabulous lover that she was with before just *knew* her and what she wanted. So I figure a.) she doesn't know what she wants and b.) doesn't know how to communicate her desires comfortably.