Detailed im sorry but i need to know

[emilyfindlay.livejournal.com]

for a while now, i've had this white stuff on the inside of my labia majora (mostly)
is this thrush/YI it wasn't itchy before so i never really worried about it.
but in the last 2 weeks its gotten really itchy, to the point where i have irritated my skin in the labia area and near my 'gooch'. this has caused minor tears.
is there anway of knowing without going to the doctor? im not very open about these things with my mum, and am quite shy. so i was wondering if anyone could help?
first of all, would it be a YI? and how can i help it?

Can lack of arousal cause the cervix to be lower?

[hikari87.livejournal.com]

I've been having sex with my boyfriend for a year now (first partner for us both.) During that time, the only times I've experienced cervix-punching was when I was on top and my weight pressing down would cause deeper penetration. A couple nights ago we were trying to get it on and for some reason I just was not getting aroused. I mean, I was turned on, but my vagina was staying tight and dry even after I came. When we started actually having intercourse, he was hitting my cervix almost every thrust and it hurt very much. I was too invested in the idea of finishing to stop him (I get into a weird headspace sometimes during sex) and afterwards I had intense cramping for about 10 minutes and twinges through the rest of the night. I know my body and I know that the pain was all because of cervix punching, but I've never, ever experienced cervix punching in missionary before and I was wondering if it was owing to a lower cervix due to lack of arousal. I did notice afterwards that there was almost no "slime" or natural lubricant in my vagina, and there's usually a LOT after having sex.

Hysterectomy scheduled but I'm having second thoughts

[storychick.livejournal.com]

So, I'm 40, have three kids. I'm done having kids, so I'm not sad about that, but I am also just not sure a hyst is the right choice.

It all started about 9 years ago (sheesh) when I had Mirena inserted after my second was born (which my body hated -- gave me near-daily and very severe migraines) and then switched to Paragard. I started having absurdly heavy periods, figured it was the IUD, and got off it. Still had heavy periods, then had another baby, lactational amenorrhea, and then... even heavier periods. Got diagnosed with hypothyroid, but getting stable didn't help. Upped my Vitamin D levels, was diagnosed anemic and fought for awhile to get my iron levels up, even did acupuncture. Did a special diet, tried progesterone cream in the second half of the cycle. Nothing helped. I also starting having some irregularity, after years of being exactly 28 days I'd have spells of shorter cycles, and on-and-off would have a 22/23 days then 28 day pattern. Nothing showed up on ultrasound -- no fibroids, no cysts, nothing to explain the bleeding.

After a few years of dealing with horrible flooding, several comedy-show level episodes in public restrooms, and endless pairs of ruined panties, I had an endometrial ablation done (with a failed attempt at Essure, and a few months later a tubal). The ablation never quite took completely. I mean, I wasn't wearing a super tampon AND a pad and still worrying about my pants, but I was still bleeding enough for the super tampons for a few days, and my periods were still long. Then they got longer and even more irregular. Which brings me to now -- I'm averaging 23 days, but am anywhere from 16-28 or so without rhyme or reason, and bleeding 8-10 days of each cycle, even the really short ones (so 8 days of blood, then 8 days off, then 8 more days of blood).

Because I have migraine with aura, I cannot take the pill or tranexamic acid (which is what lead me to the ablation before). Because of my reaction to the Mirena, I've been warned off taking POPs as well. Which leaves me two options:

Wait it out till menopause, or go ahead with the hyst.

After that 16 day cycle, I said I cannot do this anymore and scheduled the hyst for the week before christmas, because that's the only time I have for recovery. (I'm a fulltime doctoral student in my last year, and doing clinical work.) But now I am somewhat panicking. No one has been able to really say why I am bleeding like this except to shrug and say "perimenopause". The doc did an AMH test, which can sometimes indicate if menopause is in the next year or two, but I came up in the normal-low normal range, so its not likely.

But I am worried -- what if I am opening up a whole set of worse problems? I mean, I'm not in pain. I'm not really rearranging my life around my bleeding any more, though that's partly because I am between partners so its not effecting my sex life (which it WAS significantly effecting when I did have a partner). But the thought of doing this for 10 more years... just no. But, surgery! and major surgery!

You see how circular this has become.

Would you do it? What is the threshold where the risks of surgery and longer term complications is worth it? I feel so "in it" I can't really think it through any more. The thought of never having to deal with this period bullshit again is wonderful, but is that a good enough reason?

Mindful Mondays!

[jennifer0246.livejournal.com]

We're trying a new exercise in our team spaces, and we thought we'd share it with our members, too. On Mindful Mondays, we invite you to do a personal check in here. You can use this thread to talk about how you're doing, how your week was last week, what's on deck for you this week, what's stressing you out or giving you joy right now. It's a way for us to connect with each other and to be able to gain insight into what other folks may be holding or where they're coming from when they're sharing in these spaces.

Brazilian Waxing, please answer!!

[emilyfindlay.livejournal.com]

Hey guys i really want a brazilian wax as i find that i'm not very good at shaving down there and my skin is sensitive to the razors.
Anyway just wondering:
-Can the pubic hair be too long?
-How do i get over the self conciousness of having someone 'down there'?
-If the pubic hair is too long can they trim it?
-How long does the first one last for?
-How long do you wait before getting the next wax?

Sex Question

[ashleynicole282.livejournal.com]

Ok so dose anyone have the same problem of bleeding after sex? I was married for 5 years and everything we had sex I would have bleeding? It would be on the bed then when I would go pee and wipe it would be on the tissue! I have nothing wrong Gyno says everything is fine & all tests came back normal! I also bleed after getting a Pap test done every year? Anyone know why this is happening or if there is something I can do?