Aug. 5th, 2010

[identity profile] lettucedisaster.livejournal.com
So this is kind of an odd situation I guess. I last had sex toward the beginning of June. I am not on the pill. My period was scheduled to arrive on June 25, but I wanted to delay it so I took the pill for about a week prior (from a sample pack I had) to delay it. I then stopped the pill and had my period starting June 28. Fast forward to now, my period is over a week late. I have not taken the pill since. My question is twofold: a. could taking the pill for such a short time have effected my period cycle? b. could I be pregnant even tho I experienced what I assumed was my period at the end of June? or could that just have been bleeding from stopping the pill?

thank so much!
[identity profile] frankie4.livejournal.com
 The other day I posted about having unprotected sex and the risk of getting a STD/STI.  The responses I received were very helpful, thank you.  One of the posts said something along the lines of "since we were in contact with each others bodily fluids..." and I just was wondering that if a man has an unknown (or known) infection is it only passed to the women if he ejaculates inside? If he pulls out would it not be passed on? Thanks

EDIT::
I want to thank everyone for the comments that they left--they were all very helpful.  I talked to him last night about it and he said he will call his doctor and get tested so I am more comfortable.  Do the doctors usually test for all potential STDs or just certain ones so does he have to make sure they test for all of them?
[identity profile] sabishii-kirito.livejournal.com
This might be a really weird question, but does PMS have an effect on dreams? I never used to remember my dreams, but within the past year-ish, I've been getting really weird and extremely vivid dreams when I'm PMSing. It's been somewhat of a problem because some of them have been nightmares, and some of those have been night terrors. (Yea, screaming loudly in the middle of the night in a bed and breakfast because you dream a 20-foot centipede is crawling into your bed isn't awkward at all.)

Does anyone else get weird dreams when they're PMSing? Is there any way to reduce the number of occurances? I hadn't had a night terror in at least ten years before the b&b event, and it's happened since then--always when I'm PMSing.

Thanks for any advice! I'm really stumped since my overall health (physical and mental) has improved greatly in the past year. I'm pretty much open to any and all suggestions.
[identity profile] nickelshoe.livejournal.com
"Effect of Interpregnancy Interval on Outcome of Pregnancy after Miscarriage: Retrospective Analysis of Hospital Episode Statistics in Scotland" (BMJ) suggests that at least for Scottish women, it may not be such a great idea to wait six months after miscarriage before trying to conceive again.  In this study, complications were actually lower for those who got pregnant again quickly.

When I had a miscarriage, my doctor told me to wait three months.  I looked online to try to figure out why, and I never came up with a clear answer.  Even this study is fairly limited...but I'm glad we're trying to give women advice based on evidence...
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Hi there..
I'm 20 years old, living at home but engaged. I've been sexually active for several years, but PIV intercourse is exceedingly rare for me. (I've done it maybe three times this year, total.) I'm not on HBC but we use withdrawl/condoms.

I'm probably freaking out over nothing but the past few days I've been feeling nausea for no apparent reason - I've tried tracking it but it seems to come whenever it feels like it. It makes me wonder about an incident maybe a month ago now, one of the rare times I had PIV. We used a condom with lube and there was no apparent breakage, no slipping off. He didn't withdraw that time. I had a period three weeks or so after, but it was slightly different to what I usually experience. It was slightly lighter than normal (though I fluctuate a bit - sometimes it's heavy, sometimes not so much) and I didn't experience the other symptoms like cramping to the same extent that I normally do, though that could be explained by all the painkillers I was taking. Fast forward to now and I'm due about a week... I'm not experiencing my usual cramping. Is there significant reason for me to be worried about this?

I know the chances of being pregnant are probably fairly low, but I've been hearing stories lately of women who have had 'periods' thoughout their pregnancies, and those stories coupled with random nausea has me worried. And kind of depressed. It doesn't seem like there's any real way to know if you're pregnant or not, unless you feel like stocking up on tests. I know it's an option to take a pregnancy test every month when you're on HBC for peace of mind, but I was hoping it wasn't something I had to consider until my menstrual cycle was influenced by HBC. (The first advice is to take a test, but I'm currently in a position where this isn't very easy. I'm working towards it, but I have... a very controlling parent and nearly all my actions are under supervision. It isn't an option for this parent to find out about my concerns.)

Thanks for any help.
[identity profile] in-the-eyes-of.livejournal.com
Backstory:  I've had my Mirena IUD a little over a year now. I was told that I should be able to feel the strings, I wasn't able to. I went back for my follow up, to make sure it was where it's supposed to be - everything was fine. I had a period for the first two months. After that it wasn't a regular thing and if I did have a period it was so light I didn't even have to wear tampons/use anything. By the fourth month, I didn't have a period at all... until now. I went 10 months without even the slightest bit of spotting. During that entire time, I was never able to feel the strings.

Issue: The other week, dudefriend and I were having sex.. He asked "what the hell is that?!" It was the first time that he felt the strings. Out of no where today, I started bleeding. Not spotting, but full on bleeding.. I'm wondering if maybe the Mirena has slipped and is causing this? I just cancelled my gyno appt a few weeks back. I'm going to call them tomorrow and see if they have any insight or if they can fit me in somewhere. Until then, I just figured that I would ask if anyone else has experienced this or...?
[identity profile] estelendur.livejournal.com
Some background:

I've had three boyfriends. I dated the first for a year and eight months, and we were sexually active for most of that time. I dated the second for around a month and a half, and we were sexually active for around a month. I've been dating the third for nine months now, and we've been sexually active pretty much the whole time.

By sexually active, I mean doing things like fingering, handjobs, oral, and PIV.

My first boyfriend was my first kiss, and my first everything-after-that. I was his first for some things too, apparently. While we were still uncertain about sex, he was really patient, but once we started having PIV sex reasonably regularly, he got kind of less patient. This wasn't an issue until I started using the Ring, at which point my libido, already much lower than his, plummeted. And sex started hurting. And it was nearly impossible for me to get turned on. Fortunately I left for college before our relationship self-immolated in the mess of his impatience, my frustration, and the low self-esteem of both of us. (Note that I got off the HBC at this point.)

ExpandPotentially triggery for bf pressuring )

Second relationship, started out with me getting super-turned-on by just about everything he did, although his inability to keep it up while wearing a condom was frustrating. So our sex life was pretty good, until I abruptly stopped feeling attracted to him and left him for my current boyfriend. (Not so proud of this, but nobody was apparently hurt by it, so I've made peace with it.)

Current relationship, again, started out with me getting turned on fairly easily, and he has an extremely active libido, so it was all good for a while, and if it happened that I wasn't turned on, well, he just took care of it himself. So that was all good. Then my sex drive started lessening again. Now it's summer, and we're long-distance, and the couple of times we've seen each other, I've had pretty much zero sex drive. Now I'm worried that it won't come back once we're in the same city again and able to see each other regularly.

It seems an awful lot like my libido is largely driven by novelty. New boy, new toy, new sort of kisses. This is a problem, because I love current bf a lot, and I don't want to leave him, and he doesn't think he'd be able to handle me being polyamorous (even though I feel like I have more than enough emotional attention for two relationships), so the only option that feels right to me is staying with him.

Erotica sometimes works to get me turned on, but not always, and it's always over really quickly. Moreover, I would be far too embarrassed to be looking at erotica while he was in the room.

Now, he claims that he'd be perfectly okay with not having sex with me. But the thing is, I really really like being turned on and enjoying doing sexy things, and it's really super frustrating that my libido is so... picky? lazy? inactive?

Moreover, if I'm not being turned on, and sometimes even if I am, it's really easy for something my boyfriend is doing with his fingers to hurt, because apparently my vulva (especially my clit) is supar-sensitive. It might just be that he's not very dexterous, except that I didn't have this problem back at the beginning of our relationship. He also can't give good oral and I feel self-conscious about how i smell and taste anyway. So it's hard to get good foreplay.

Actually, there's one other thing that's almost certainly a huge contributory factor: somewhere I seem to have got a sense of shame about sex and I've no clue how to shed it. It's been around since before I was sexually active, though it was almost certainly worsened by my first bf.

Any suggestions as to ways I can revive it? I'm not on HBC, I'm not on any mind-altering drugs. I can masturbate, but it's still really difficult for me to get turned on that way and sometimes the whole effort just peters out.

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