bad experience

[betterbebalboa.livejournal.com]

Hi all, I had a really bad sexual experience last night, the kind of thing where I felt happy this morning until I remembered what had happened and it all came crashing down. I just wanted to be able to talk about it and ask what I should do next.

There's a guy in my graduate program who's been flirting with me for a while. Last night our program hosted a party for us. At the end, people were heading to different apartments to continue celebrating. The guy mentioned heading to someone's place, so I left with him, thinking I would spend a little time there before heading home. I was very drunk. He took me to his apartment instead and started making out with me. I don't even know what set it off, but I started crying and totally breaking down, apologizing and asking to go home. I know that I really didn't want to have sex with him and I just wanted to go home. I was curled up and crying hysterically. All I really remember him saying are things like "This isn't what I expected" and "I'm kind of bored." I threw up a couple times from being so drunk. I felt like he wouldn't let me/help me go home until I slept with him, so I did. I just kind of gave in. I felt really cold and awful while we were having sex, which is not at all how I usually feel. [He used a condom.] Then he called me a ride and I was able to get home.

I've never had something like this happen to me before; I'm generally very assertive about what I want and don't want sexually. Right now I feel like shit, just ashamed and confused. I know he didn't literally assault me, he waited for me to verbally consent, but I feel like a normal person would have realized that me crying hysterically, asking repeatedly to go home, and being so drunk that I was throwing up was not a time when I *could* really consent. I don't really know what to do. I don't want to get him in trouble or give him a bad name, I just want to pretend like this never happened - I don't want to see him or talk to him again. I don't want anyone else in my program to know this happened.

If you could give me any advice about how to avoid him, or just help me not to feel like a dumb slut, it would be much appreciated.

Continuous withdrawal bleeding/A little longwinded, I'm sorry.

[finding-jay.livejournal.com]

I'm currently on Microgynon 30 (I believe it's called Lordette in the US), and have been since late November/early December. Previously I was on Yasmin for three and a half years, and before that Diane for six months.

I've currently had breakthrough bleeding for the past month. It's been on and off, and it's wavered between just generally dark, brown spotting to very bright red, clotty, blood-running-down-the-legs type bleeding. As you ladies can probably guess, I'm really freaking drained and tired. I have continuous problems with both iron-based anaemia and B12-based, and despite taking my supplements, eating a heap of red meat and leafy green vegies, I can feel the anaemia starting to kick in. Uni here is also wrapping up, so I'm also starting to get a little bit stressed out, and the last thing I need is my uterus deciding to let The Bloodening toy with me.

I was put on Microgynon because I have a history of endometriosis. My periods are typically nine days long, very heavy, with clots occasionally the size of my palm. This was the case before I started taking HBC, and it continued through with Diane (which made it a little worse, actually) and Yasmin. The cramps- which I'm also experiencing right now- were also godawful, and there were days where I couldn't leave the house as I was nauseous and couldn't bring myself to stand up straight. The Microgynon has managed to cut my periods back to four days, and the cramping isn't so horrible.

Anyway, when this breakthrough bleeding started, I decided to ignore it as it's happened before on other pills, and I wasn't due for my period anyway. But it's just kept continuing. Often it will start in the evening, and other times in the morning. At one point it lasted for three days, a mixture of spotting and continual bleeding, and I figured that maybe, even though I hadn't missed anyway of my tablets, that it was just my period, and that was that. But no, two days later it came back.

The other night, after some sexy time with my partner, it just kept bleeding. It was like one of my former, pre-HBC pills. I was actually quite embarrassed, as it went through the sheets and mattress cover. My partner didn't care, and understood that hey, I can't exactly tell my uterus to stop, but it was very heavy. Sometimes I do have some very, very minor spotting after sex, particularly if something hasn't been up there for a while, but this was very out of the ordinary.

Sooo, after all this textual diarrhoea, I'm just wondering if any of you folks here on VP could give me an idea as to what may be going on here? I have an appointment with my GP in a few days, and I have a very well timed check-up with my gyn in two weeks, so I'm going to bring it up with them. But is there anything you folks could suggest, or anything I could educate myself on?

Can a hydrogen peroxide douche treat both BV and YI?

[voleusedenuit.livejournal.com]

Hello VPers! I've been dealing with chronic BV since February and also had a really bad YI that lasted a few of months. The YI was finally treated with fluconazole (diflucan) but metronidazole (flagyl) hasn't been able to completely rid me of my BV. It always comes back a couple of days after the end of my period. I've had good luck treating it with hydrogen peroxide the last time but I'm wondering if it would also treat a YI? I ask because as what is now usual for me, a couple of days after the end of my period, I started getting the same burning feeling in my vagina and my labia is bright red as in the past with my BV infections. The one difference is that this time the discharge is more "creamy" and slightly gooey, which resembles more a YI. I also looked at my vagina with a mirror and I can see some slight discharges around the opening on the inside. Now I don't know if this might have something to do with my extra hot weather we've been having here this last 2 weeks or not.

I am being followed by a gynaecologist for my chronic BV issue but there is no chance of me being able to see him for 2 weeks. He did prescribed me flagystatin (metronidazole in a vaginal cream format) last time I saw him but I'm hesitant to use it since I'm not a 100% sure I have a BV this time and I know it's strong medication. I also have a package of fluconazole (diflucan) left but again I don't want to take without being sure since I'm afraid it might give me an infection.

So my question (and hope) is that does anyone where know if a hydrogen peroxide douche works for treating both BV and YI? If not, if I try to treat myself with plain yougurt but don't have a YI, will it causes the BV to get worse? Thank you!

update to prev post abt HBC & DVT

[gloraelin.livejournal.com]

update to this post

hey. last night was an ~adventure~, for sure. And I've got the bruises to show for it.

I did go to the ER, we left about 11:15 [my breathing took a nosedive around 10:30 or so, and after desperately trying to get my inhaler to work, it took a bit to pack everything up] and got there ~11:40 or so. Times are really fuzzy, though.

It was really strange, though, because the triage nurse had to have me explain my concern after I told her the trifecta of Bad [high-dose BC, leg pain, breathing difficulties]... wouldn't you think an RN would be able to figure it out? I mean, my nurse in the back AND my doctor both got it right away. *shrug* oh well.

I got to a room, and Esther [my nurse] came in to hook me up [blood pressure cuff and SPO2? finger thing]. Oddly enough, my oxygen concentration was reading between 95-100%, which is weird because it sure as hell doesn't feel that good. Respiratory therapy guy came and listened to my lungs, said they were clear, and left.

That'd be all well and good IF I was coughing up crap. Which I'm not. And wasn't.

The doctor eventually came in [he was very nice {and kinda hott *ahem*}], we talked, he felt up my legs [*rofl*], he said that yeah, it sounds like it might be a clot. Then he asked me how I knew about clots and I'm sitting there going "... because I read my med guides?" Seriously, am I the only person he's ever seen that actually pays attention to what problems their meds could cause?

Anyway. They [tried to] draw blood. I am now the dubiously proud owner of five bruises, three of which are epic. They finally threw an IV in my upper arm, right above my armpit [yes, it hurts] and drew blood from my wrist. Lab guy: Okay, we're ready. Hold still, please. Me: I'M TRYING YOU'RE SHOVING A NEEDLE IN MY WRIST!

So, I'm just waiting, trying to breathe, playing some Mario Kart, and Esther comes in and does an EKG. I don't see the connection, but okay... it's not like they hurt.

I wait. Doc comes back, "no clot." Says to keep an eye on my calves and measure them to see if they ~develop~ a difference. I'm discharged with a diagnosis of "dyspnea" with instructions for "shortness of breath, unclear etiology."

... except neither the doc nor the nurse told me anything I could do about the breathing. [I did forget to ask, yes, but it was three in the morning!] So, here I am. nothing's better. absolutely nothing.

My friend and I are starting to wonder if it's a case of "compression" or ... whatever the term would be, from *ahem* boobs. I have very large boobs. Like, I cup large. And I have zero bras that actually fit like they're "supposed to," but... I've been turned down for a reduction because I'm ~too fat~.

I don't know if this is something that would add to my case or not, but I really... honestly don't feel like fighting. I just want to be able to breathe. It's still going on. It's worse [WAY worse] when I lay down. It's even a bit worse as I'm sitting here at the computer. I'm lightheaded, I'm having trouble thinking [like... brain fog, almost?], concentration is shot... blah blah. and they said there was "nothing emergent" so I don't even know what would happen if I went back.

as an aside, anybody know of something I can do to help those bruises calm down? since they're on both sides it makes sleeping a tad difficult.

Anyway. Thank you for reading and a VERY big thank you to those who commented to my previous post.

Preventing period

[girlofavalon.livejournal.com]

Hello, VPers! This is my second post here today, I'm sorry for spamming.

I know it may sound weird, but I'm seeking advice on period prevention.

I'm staying a month in England for a course, starting in the end of June. I got my period on the May 27th, and I'm likely to get it again by the end of June, when my trip begins. I am not really sure if I want it to happen then, especially considering there are chances I am meeting up with a guy I met here in Brazil. Our meetup should be in June, coz he's only staying that month there.

I don't feel comfortable with the idea of having sex while on my period.

I'm thinking of getting a gyno appointment and ask to have a pill prescription. The thing is that I've been a virgin until not long ago, I've never been on HBC nor have I read so much about it yet. I'm quite a newbie.

Any advice or tip would be appreciated.

Canesten Oral

[rachelashleigh.livejournal.com]

Tonight I took Canesten Oral to hopefully rid of the mild YI I have. I typically use the vaginal Canesten 3-day, and it is my first time taking the oral capsule/first time ingesting a drug to clear a YI. Can anyone tell me of their experience with Canesten Oral? I've searched the memories and I didn't find anything helpful. I'm just wondering if there are any typical side effects, just like how typically when I use to take it vaginally, I'd have the goopy discharge come out of me the next day. I'm hoping with taking the oral pill, plus my period is about to come sometime next week that I'll be able to rid of this bugger.

Thanks :)