ways to improve sex-drive?

[moshfloorkiller.livejournal.com]

My sex drive has been non-existent the past two months, and it's quite upsetting considering I used to be quite horny all the time!
I know exactly why; I suffer from depression and the past two months I've been very depressed.

I'm also under a lot of stress (my fiance and I just moved in together four months ago, and we live 10 hours away from our hometown/friends/family) so I'm sure that's contributing to it all as well.

I may be going on anti-depressants in the next couple months. Would that help? Any other suggestions?
It's really been bumming me out and I feel bad for my poor fiance :(
He tries his best to get me in the mood but I just can't bring myself to have sex. We've had it a few times this month but I haven't entirely enjoyed it.

Also, another question while I'm here;
I've never been on anti-depressants (i'm quite afraid of them, actually) and have no idea how they'll interact with my birth control pill. I'm on Alesse. Is there anything I should prepare for/worry about? I'm mostly concerned about mood swings and other mental issues that might come from having the anti-depressants and synthetic hormones floating around my system. 

I dont have sex with my boyfriend anymore : (

[noelanna.livejournal.com]

I don't know whats wrong with me. Actually i do. I used to enjoy having sex, and enjoy having sex with my boyfriend. I was open and loved to try new things. My sex drive was off the wall. I could have sex everyday and still not get enough.

I have been with him for over two years now and it has been over 6 months since we have slept together. All the times that we did sleep together it was never any good, or bad things would happen, like he would get soft (which i realize is common, but he would get soft for reasons as such like i was on top and it just didn't feel good for him). He doesn't do oral and pretty much refuses to, which i have dealt with, he is never into trying new things. Another thing was that even though we were on a regular sex schedual he still would only last like ten minutes. Not once did i feel like he was trying to please me, it was always me pleasing him. When we first got together he didnt even like to finger me because he didnt like his hand getting all wet.

So i got to the point where it wasn't even worth getting undressed for. Sex with him was just so awful i have seriously quit wanting to have sex again actually.The stories go on forever, i cant even type all of them up. Am i alone, has anyone else been in my situation? How have you coped with this issue? I need help, I hate feeling like this : (

Gentian violet in Canada

[so-much-udder.livejournal.com]

Does anyone know where I can get Gentian violet in Canada? I was looking at the Vulvapedia entry, and we don't have Walgreens here, and I followed the link from Amazon, and it would come to $26 including shipping! I went to the pharmacy at a local hospital and they didn't have it...I have yet to check at Shoppers, but I'm planning on it. Does anyone know where I can get some?

Lifestyle "Skyn" condoms?

[officialtissue.livejournal.com]

I had sex last night and when I went to toss the wrapper, I noticed it was a "Lifestyle Skyn", an apparently "non latex" condom. It has a gold wrapper so I assumed it was a magnum. What are "non latex" condoms made of? Should I worry that it wasn't as effective as latex condoms? Anyone have any experience with this one? I noticed it had a price stamp for 2 bucks. 2 bucks for one condom? lol...

adjusting to birth control

[nintendosongs.livejournal.com]

about a year ago, i started taking birth control for the first time, but only stuck with it for a little under three months. during the first month, i remember my period lasting at least 10 days due to my body adjusting and whatnot.

i have recently started taking the same birth control(ortho tri-cyclen lo) again, and am just finishing up the first pack. my period came on wednesday but seems a lot lighter than normal, and also seems to be already finishing up, which seems weird to me.

is it possible that once your body initially adjusts to birth control once, it will not need to adjust again even if you take a year long break in between starting and stopping? normally my period is fairly heavy and lasts about 7 days, so i am curious as to the cause of it being so light and short so suddenly.

sorry if this question sounds silly!

How long does it take for herpes lesions to form?

[alisongrain.livejournal.com]

I know this is my 3rd post about this, but I'm really worried...and I got very few responses to my last entry. :(

Once again, asking for a friend. They have a tender area on their vagina with like maybe 3-ish slighly raised bumped. That only hurt when pressure is applied. The irritation has been there for at least a good 48hrs now. They might be slightly bigger now, but its really hard to tell if the irritation has gotten worse or stayed the same.

So the main question is: How long does it take for herpes lesions to form? Do they turn into blisters pretty quickly?...or can it be a slow process? Does it vary from person to person?

If anyone has any answers to these questions, please PLEASE help. :(
Doctors appointment today. Really freaked out.

Pregnancy worries

[kwaniesiam.livejournal.com]

What is the usual time frame for an at home pregnancy test showing a positive? The last time I had PIV was just over 2 months ago, and there was ejaculation inside of the vagina though very little. I'm not on any birth control, we were using pull out though towards the end he slipped a little. Fast forward, I bled a little a few weeks later though it was very light bleeding compared to my usual extremely heavy periods. I do have hypothyroidism and am on both Armour thyroid and liothyronine for it which increases the chance of miscarriage. Are there any medications that can indicate a false positive test result I should be aware of? I was just sick with the flu last week and was taking a cough syrup with coedine and tamiflu.

Lately I've had extreme bouts of nausea, no appetite, mood swings, sore breasts, back pain...a lot of common pregnancy symptoms. I've had so much going on in my life it never even occured to me I could be pregnant, I just figured it was stress and that my cycles have never been very regular to begin with. Tomorrow I was going to get a pregnancy test just in case. I'm not in a place in my life right now where I would be able to raise a child, so I'm really scared right now. Any advice would be helpful, thank you.

Shaving

[caustic-sofa.livejournal.com]

Okay- so this probably sounds really dumb, but how do you shave your pubic area into a landing strip?

Wait.. I know HOW. The real question is: any tips on making it STRAIGHT? Whenever I've tried, it's always a bit wonky-looking.


Thanks, VP!

Dildos to solve painful vaginal sex?

[honest-whisper.livejournal.com]

Whenever I have vaginal sex, whatever the position, it feels painful around the entrance of my vagina; not to say I don't enjoy it but that there seems always to be some pain of an almost stinging sort which prevents me from carrying on for as long as we otherwise would. It has been becoming more of an issue recently because I am so afraid of vaginal sex being disappointing or cut short that I have found myself avoiding it entirely.

I have been having sex for 3 years with one partner (I am also his first). I am on the pill but I don't think it is a case of lack of libido or lubrication; we have always had extensive foreplay and have tried a variety of (non-glycerin) lubes. I have had yeasties in the past but both my boyfriend and I have used yoghurt and canesten to treat them so I don't think its a current problem.

I have been considering buying a dildo/internal vibrator as I think this way I could 'practise' and acclimatise my body to being penetrated. (I think a toy might allow for short but frequent attempts that as I am in a long distance relationship sex cannot) I have also wondered whether it is possible that there could be 'remnants' of my hymen that are stretched but not broken? (I know this sounds implausible but I am really searching here)

Does anybody have any recommendations for suitable toys? (I live in the UK but would consider ordering online although I don't want anything too expensive)

Also, any other ideas on possible causes / solutions to painful sex.