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[shookmecold.livejournal.com]

whenever my bf and i have sex in certain positions (i notice it most when we are in missionary with my knees pushed closer to my head) i feel sharp pains in my lower abdomen. it almost feels like cramps from gas :| is it gas? is it just that his penis is too long and is poking my insides all funny? am i a freak of nature?! just kidding, but seriously, has anyone else experienced anything like this? andy is curious as well.

Odd feelings resulting from being someone's "first"

[natane.livejournal.com]

Sex-related, but not strictly vagina related. I'm hoping that's okay?

I found out from my boyfriend a few days ago - after a six month relationship - that I'm his "first" in a lot of things.

- first person he's been able to come with during PIV
- first person to get him to come from oral (this and the first make me wonder if he'd came with anyone before me. I don't know that i want to ask, what I learned was enough for one day!)
- first person he's tried anal with (which is how this conversation came up - that happened this weekend)
- first person to
- there were more, i don't remember them all now.

I'm kinda... feeling odd about this.

On the one hand, I'm pretty proud of myself (sorry, lol) and also happy that we're obviously more sexually compatible with each other than he was with any of his previous girlfriends, and I have to say the same for me and my previous boyfriends.

On the other hand, considering that I was raised with the view that sex is not something women should like or enjoy, i kinda feel... a little dirty, maybe? because of the fact that I'm the one who's had more experience with things.
Has anyone else had this happen?

I also feel a little... lied to? Not trusted?
I can understand why he wouldn't want to tell me - he's a wonderful guy, but he'll do some very random macho things at times, and I expect that he didn't want me to see him as "unexperienced".
But I feel like if I was willing to tell him some of the less savory things about my sexual history, he should have been able to trust me too.

I'm happy he thought I was important enough to share certain things with me. And I'm kinda happy that he's trusting me enough to tell me now, but I wish I'd known earlier. I think I would have taken certain things more slowly if I had known that, and it would have mattered to me a lot more that I was able to do certain things with him.

But the most nagging and persistent feeling is this.
I worry that because of the fact I'm his first in these things, and he hasn't got anyone else to compare the experiences to, sooner or later he'll decide he wants to see how it's like with someone else. Or he'll say "Well, we've already tried everything, there's not much left sexually between us."
And I realize that's totally illogical, since no matter if I'd been his first or not he could just randomnly someday decide he wants to have sex with someone else.

Gah. Please, some helpful, sane advice? Telling me "stop being ridiculous" counts.

taking 2nd dosage late

[anacoquette.livejournal.com]

shit shit sht. to make my situation  worst I was suppose to take the 2nd dose of the morning after pills 12hrs later but I passed out really early and forgot. now I woke up and took them immediately when i remembered (6hrs later. oh boy)

now im just worried and freaking out.

 

breast pain and ovulation?

[moonstrucky.livejournal.com]

My breasts hurt, as if I were experiencing PMS breast tenderness, only I'm not.  They've felt this way for nearly a week and a half now.  The start of pain coincided with my "supposed to ovulate" date, but I have PCOS, so I'm not sure if I actually did ovulate or not.
The questions are:  is breast pain that occurs with ovulation common?  Is it something that typically lasts for a while?  Any suggestions on how to feel more comfortable until it subsides?

Facial cream in vagina?

[un-solved.livejournal.com]

I'm dumb.
A few minutes ago I put cream on my face and I'm pretty sure I didn't wash my hands so there must have been some residue on them when I went ahead and inserted a tampon 5 minutes later! My hands were dry so I forgot and it probably wouldn't be much of a deal anyway except for the fact that my cream is against zits and stuff and therefore has more aggressive ingredients, I bet. (It's this one, but it's in German, sorry...)
But it's store bought and not prescribed by a doctor so it's most likely not the heavy duty stuff but still... is there anything I can/have to do?

Implanon

[perplexed-dani.livejournal.com]

Hello everyone

I joined live journal just to join this community as i just don't think there is a better place to discuss this issue.

I got the implanon put it last year, after a mixture of condoms and the pill failed me spectacularly, and i wanted something extra in place, that i couldn't very easily mess up.

So after a year of crazy period's and horrible mood swings i was told by my doctor that actually, i shouldn't really be bleeding as much by now, she suggested that i must have an STI, i suggested that just because i am under the age of 25 she should not jump to conclusions as i went to the GUM clinic some 4 weeks previously.

So i went to the gyno unit at the hospital yesterday and apparently i have an erosion on my cervix, he called it 'the worst i have ever seen' he put some chemical crap on it but said i am going to have to have surgery to sort it out. He said it was caused by the implanon. Firstly i would like to say at no point in their literature do i remember reading that this could be a side effect, does anyone know better?

The point of all this is should i get the implant taken out? I am torn, i drive myself half crazy when i am just on the pill always worrying that it won't work again, and the injection just caused me to cry for three months when i had it. But if it going to be so bad for my health that it results in surgery, thats not good either! Help!

cuts on either side of my clitoral hood- owch!

[annachronism0-0.livejournal.com]

Hi- this is the first time I've posted to this comm, although I check it frequently when I need advice- thanks for being there, you guys, I would never be able to go to a doctor and talk about some of this kind of stuff :)

Onto my problem :( A while ago, I got what looked like papercuts, one either side of my clit hood, after masturbating in the bath. It was when I stepped out of the bath that I realised something felt painfully wrong, but I needed a mirror and my boyfriend's help to work out where the heck the horrible stinging pain was coming from. I had tickets to a weekend music festival the next day, and I spent the whole time panicking I'd get the cuts infected, since a tent in July really isn't a sanitary environment, but I took some sanitary wipes with me (the kind you get with sanitary towels, I think they just help you to 'freshen up' rather than fight infection, but hey) and the cuts seemed to heal up without any other 'help' after about 5 days, and stopped being really painful after about 3 (bear in mind that I heal incredibly slowly, however, even when I get a cut on my finger- the doc says it might be because I'm vegetarian, but I think he has a thing against non-meat-eaters!)
I trawled the internet looking for advice on this, and found nothing, but wasn't worried. Till today D: I have another hugely painful, very fine cut on one side of my clit hood. This wasn't after any kind of bathtime adventure :P but I have been using pantyliners to combat the spotting I'm getting from my new mirena. anyone have any ideas as to why this keeps happening, and how I can help it heal more quickly? Thanks!

Pregnancy & bleeding

[pacificseyes.livejournal.com]

I'm around 6 or 7 weeks pregnant, have an appointment for a medical abortion tomorrow at 9am.
A couple days ago I started having brown/black discharge which I read was normal but now it's gotten heavier, bright red bleeding and lots of cramps.
I just passed a clot the size of maybe a golf ball.
Should I wait until my appointment tomorrow, or should I do something now?
I'm going to Planned Parenthood and I don't have a OB/GYN or any doctor for that matter, so I don't know who to call. I can't really use my insurance since it's under my father's name and he can not find out. (I got PP insurance to cover the abortion)

Does anyone have any advice? (I'm in NYC, by the way)
Thank you!


EDIT
I called PP, they only handle post-procedure complications so no one will get to me until tomorrow. ER I take it?
I passed another clot, twice the size as the first.


EDIT again
Went to the ER, after 9 hours everything looks okay. My uterus is nearly empty and I should be fine. Thanks for your advice and concern!

Anonymous post: Pap and free Gardasil in Toronto

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I'm 20 years old and in the Toronto area of Canada. I started hormonal birth control just over 2 months ago (Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo) and was given 4 months worth by my doctor. He told me to get a pap smear 'within the next couple of months' as I'm sexually active (with a monogamous partner) now and have never had one done. The thing is, I'm woefully ignorant of how to go about doing this. I don't want my doctor to do it- I'm uncomfortable around him at the best of times (and plan to switch doctors when I move in a year) and would feel super awkward having him do that as I'd prefer a woman, anyway. The only female doctor at my clinic is another doctor I feel uncomfortable around, having seen her once when my regular doctor was on vacation and I was not at all pleased with her.

So I simply don't know how to go about getting a pap smear. I don't have any referrals to a gynecologist and I'm completely ignorant. Would it be possible to go to a place like Planned Parenthood in Toronto and get it done, and have the results forwarded to my clinic? Do I need to call them and make an appointment? I sort of have anxiety issues and the longer I've left this the more I'm getting worried about it. Does anyone have any ideas?

Also, my doctor told me I should get the HPV vaccination. He informed he it's usually given to girls in grade eight for free but I never got one. Then he said I could get one at my university clinic for free but I don't currently attend university, or any school for that matter. Otherwise, he said, I'd have to pay for it and unless I'm highly mistaken it was something like $170 per shot or something like that (when I looked at the sheet he gave me two months ago). Is there any way at all I could get this vaccination for free even though I don't attend school? I really, really, do not have the funds to pay that much money- it just isn't possible and I'll have to do without.

Thank you for all your help superstars!

birth control: thinning hair?

[girl-kicks-boy.livejournal.com]

my hair has been thinning out considerably over the years. i've been on oral BC now for going on 6 years, and am wondering if this could be the cause. i've read in a few places that it could be, but would like to know if any of you have experienced said side effect, and if so, did your hair go back to its pre-BC state when/if you stopped taking it? additionally, are there pills out there (low hormone, maybe) that wouldn't cause my hair to do this? thanks!

Birth Control and Skin

[anjaunplugged.livejournal.com]

Hi guys,
I've been taking Yaz for about 3 months. Before that I was on Yasmin and before that Estelle. I stopped taking Estelle because I gained a lot of weight, then my doctor recommended Yasmin and Yaz because I said I needed something for my skin. I used to get breakouts on a daily basis, not cystic acne but pimples. Now I'm not getting many breakouts, but since I've been on Yaz my skin and hair has gotten ridiculously oily and that is subsequently blocking my pores which is making me get little bumps on my forehead and chin. My skin is also a terrible texture, and I just hate it.

Does anyone have any experience with this kind of situation? Pill recommendations would be great, I don't know what exactly is available here in New Zealand, but I'll write out a list and take it to my GP. I'm so sick of having horrible skin, I have to wear makeup every day or I feel horrible.

[Anonymous Post]: partner seemingly nervous about sex

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Hi all,

As you probably know, there are times when a member of the VP Team will post on behalf of someone who wishes to remain anonymous. This is one of those times.

We appreciate your consideration when responding to this post.

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Hi, my current sex partner can't seem to stay erect during sex. He is usually fine during foreplay, but once we are about to actually have sex he loses it. This isn't every time, but it seems to occur frequently. Sometimes if we are in the middle of sex and he slips out he loses it too. I am not sure what is going on, and I don't want to embarrass him by asking, so I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this. He doesn't seem to mind it happening, and we will just pick back up where we left off in a little while. I feel frustrated sometimes because I am afraid it has to do with me, like I am doing something wrong or something. Does anyone have any solutions or similar experiences? Thanks!

Herpes???

[worried444.livejournal.com]

Hey!  I've been having some vagina related problems recently. It all started last week. 3 days before my period I thought I might be getting a yeast infection. I bought some apple cider vinegar and put it in the bath and ate lots of yogurt. Towards the end of my period I seemed to be feeling better. So I just assumed it was hormone related. Now at the end of my period, around the last day I realized that I was sore around my perineum (before the discomfort was around the top of my clitoris). It feels like I have some kind of skin irritation and it burns whenever I pee and I get pee on the area. It seemed to have gotten worse the next day and today it feels slightly better than yesterday. What could it be??? I went on google and it pointed to herpes. So I am freaking out. I don't really have any reason to believe that I have herpes, especially in that area...but it's a possibility.

A couple months ago (April) my bf went down on me and had the end of a cold sore. I didn't even notice, it didn't look like a cold sore at all to me. He wasn't sure if it was even one. It looked like a pimple that was almost healed and he said he had it for a week. I know when I get cold sores they are hideous and looked nothing like that. BUT the next day I did get a cold sore on my lip. So I freaked out a bit but then kinda forgot about it.

I'm lost as to what could be wrong and I'm really hoping its not herpes :(