Miscarriages: a couple different kinds of questions

[jasminekitty.livejournal.com]

First, I'll set the stage for these questions. My friend (here after "my friend") got pregnant. When my friend first missed her period, she figured it was getting back to college and living with other females in a dorm and getting thrown off-schedule. About two weeks late, she took a home test. She only told me, one other friend (here after, "Friend B") and a professor she is close with. She was still deciding what to do, hadn't been to the doctor and hadn't told her parents or her sex partner (they aren't in a relationship anymore). She called the growing being inside her Uterus "Acorn" because she didn't want to use call Acorn by a gender pronoun, or "it" or a "baby" or a "fetus" or start playing with names. A couple days ago, (about two months into pregnancy) she had a miscarriage. She told Friend B and me that she wants us to celebrate Acorn's would-have-been Birthday.

First, some technical questions: I didn't want to ask my friend these because she's still pretty upset and they could sound cold to her. How big would Acorn have been? How painful is a miscarriage at that point--cramps, vomitting, soreness?

Saftey questions: Should my friend see a doctor? If not, are there warning signs that we should watch for that some other health problem caused the miscarriage?

Timing questions: So, because my friend wants friend B and me to celebrate Acorn's would-be Birthday, we need to know how long a pregnancy term is. I always thought 9 months (or 9 and a half?). Friend B is convinced that it is 10 months. She says that it's 9 after the month it takes you to find out you are pregnant. We searched and things say 9 months or "approximately 9 months." Friend B says they just assume that either you know or you find out at the Dr.'s when your due date is a full 9 months in the future instead of 8. I just thought they would adjust and make it 9 from conception, about 8 from the appointment. Does anyone know for sure? If she got pregnant August 29-31st what would her due date be?

Emotional SUpport questions: Has anybody ever been asked to celebrate a would-have-been birthday? Does anyone have any suggestions about how you would do that? How can I support her in the mean time? Should we suggest she go see a counselor? She talked to one Pastoral Counselor and he said it was God's punishment for considering abortion. She had never been really religious or pro-life before, but now she's devastated by this. Can we say anything to undo this (idealistic, I know.) Just generally, how can we best support her?

Thanks so much in advance!

Ovulation confusion.

[altheia.livejournal.com]

This might sound like a stupid question, but the leaflet in my pack of pills dosent answer it, so for the sake of my curiosity i thought i would ask here.
Right, well, my pill pack says that if you miss three pills in a row you are at risk of ovulating (and therefore getting pregnant), so how can you miss seven in a row for your break week and still be protected?

I dont really understand how it all works..

pregnancy questions

[quatre-vingts.livejournal.com]

A few pregnancy-related questions, for curiosity's sake:

-So, when the baby's born, the umbilical cord is cut. What is the cord made of, and where does it attach inside the woman--to the inside of the placenta? Also, is it more "open," like a tube to transmit air and nutrition, and where does it connect inside the fetus/baby?

-When women have miscarriages or abortions, even when they weren't pregnancies that were wanted, sometimes depression follows anyway. Though people of various opinions will call it guilt or what have you, couldn't the wackiness of hormones following such an event be the culprit? Is post-termination depression similar to post-partum depression in this respect, then?

lower abd. pain/birth control

[robot-sarah.livejournal.com]

Two questions.

Okay, Saturday night/Sunday morning (around 9:30 PM - 2:30 AM) I was in the emergency room for HORRIBLE pains in my lower abdomen (almost all of my baby-making parts were involved) and I could barely walk or anything (i'd been having trouble with a particular area (right ovary/appendix), and for the past few years, when I lie flat on my back and suck my stomach in, I would get a stabbing pain in that area) Anyway, thankfully, both my mother and my boyfriend were there to support me. It was rather funny, though. Despite the pain, I was trying to comfort my boyfriend who was crying. :D

Anyway.

They gave me my first pelvic exam (i'm 19, so it's about time) to check it out, which was awful and hurt very badly when he poked toward the "bad spot," as I like to call it. Then they took me in for an ultrasound (both on the stomach and a vaginal one) which took about 10 minutes.

In short, they don't know why I was in so much pain. My appendix was fine. My right ovary was bigger than the left, but the blood supply is great. They prescribed me antibiotics just in case there is an infection brewing that they "didn't catch." They also got me an appointment for this Tuesday (tomorrow) for a followup exam, which leads me to my second question.

I am going to get put on birth control, but I don't know if I'm allowed to choose what kind I want, or if he'll just give me "the pill." I'd really like to try the ring or the shot, but are there certain qualifications to get those kinds? I just don't feel comfortable with having to remember to take a pill at the same time everyday, because I'm already on other medication and I'm horrible at remembering.

Thanks!


much love,
sarah

I would think this was a normal Yeastie, But the symptoms return way too quickly

[project122.livejournal.com]

I don't remember when the itching started, but it was two periods ago, it started about a week before my period and then the itching ended with my period. The itching is located all around the entrance.

The second time was another week deal before my next period and again, with my period it faded.

now it has started 2 weeks before my period on Thursday and has yet to die down.

There is no discharge, or stinkiness, just this unbearable itching all in the entrance. I suspect it's my laundry detergent causing it, because this only started again when I accidently wore underwear my mom had washed, and the previous time was right after I wore freshly washed underwear with the same detergent, after that time I had started to wash my underwear without detergent. Im not completely sure it's the detergent

It's Arm & Hammer laundry detergent.

I'm not sure that's exactly what is causing it, but I'm very sick of the itching and I need to know a way to relieve it.

Body-positive organization

[ttelracs.livejournal.com]

http://www.about-face.org

"About-face promotes positive self-esteem in girls and women of all ages, sizes, races and backgrounds through a spirited approach to media education, outreach and activism."

Their website says they have been around for 10 years, and have 0 paid staff (from someone who went to school for non-profit management - this is quite impressive!)

They also have a "gallery of offenders" and "gallery of winners".

Strep B

[kaonamai.livejournal.com]

Do you guys think that the Divacup might be causing my strep B to come back again and again? When i used tampons, i didn't have this problem.

Currently i am on penicillin.

painful orgasm

[sparkli-faery.livejournal.com]

ive had a look around the community, havent found anything like my question...
whenever im having sex or mastubating, just before i orgasm and my vaginal muscles contract it is quite painfull, if i bear it the pain goes away after a few seconds when the muscles relax and contact again but i was just wondering why it is painful?

BC & contact lenses

[burnxwithxme.livejournal.com]

I was reading a Nurses drug guide book and I read something that i thought was interesting...
It said that if you take birth control and wear contacts that your doctor should tell you to get your eyes checked after a month of taking them because BC can change the way your contacts fit.Has anyone ever heard about this before?

Yasmine

[meekly.livejournal.com]

I just started my first pack of yasmine and I just wanted to know some of your girls experience with side effects. I'm expecting cramps but is there anything else I should expect?

difficulty having sex.

[acalltoapathy.livejournal.com]

Hi,

I've watched this community and thought it was really awesome for awhile. Now I have a question and I'm hoping fervently that someone will be able to help. I'll use an lj-cut since it's going to get specific.

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postponing period

[cleobatya.livejournal.com]

my friend is getting married on jan. 2. her period arrived a few days early on nov 4. she's so worried that she'll have it on jan 2. do you know of any safe and preferrably natural ways to postpone the period? she doesnt wnat to take birth control.

thanks!!

Continuous miscarriages?

[rotf-lmao.livejournal.com]

Okay. I have a question. Is it possible to become pregnant and miscarry month after month after month?

I'm asking because I'm becoming quite worried about someone I know.

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Hurting vagina

[3636572.livejournal.com]

For some reason I am having some serious vaginal discomfort. There's redness on either side of my vaginal opening, below the labia majora - it looks sort of like a spotty rash. And it really hurts; it feels like someone rubbed away at the skin for hours and now it's raw. It's not a yeast infection, and I haven't had sex (or any penetration at all for that matter) or any chafing down there. It's just like.. sorta inflamed, and really sore to the touch. Don't think it could be an STD.

I am having my period, so I don't know if this could be a factor. About twelve hours before the "rashes" developed, I did use a soap I've never used before, and yes, I did actually use it on my vagina, which I almost never do. It was some organic soap that mostly contains olive oil, honey, and an herb called calendula. I also used a scented tampon, something else that I do next to never (bought 'em by accident and didn't want them to go to waste).

Any ideas?

Virginity and abortions.

[hiskisskills.livejournal.com]

So I very recently lost my virginity and yes, it hurt me pretty bad. But I just bit my pillow and went along with it. After a while it only hurt at random times, but besides that it didn't really feel amazing. I know it's normal to not experience pleasure the first time, but is it normal to not really feel anything? The act itself is addicting, but when is the penetration itself going to feel good?

And, I know that in the state if Texas you have to have judiciary bypass to get an abortion without parental consent, but how hard is it to have them accept your appeal?

Weird discharge

[copingwithpain.livejournal.com]

Something strange is going on with my reproductive system. I have no idea what, and I'm in the process of finding a doctor and making an appointment for as soon as I can, but I though I'd ask meanwhile if anyone has any idea, since I'd like to be as informed as possible about what might be going on.

For the past two weeks, I've been having oddly colored discharge. It's brown, sometimes very dark, though it seems to have gotten a bit lighter. I'm not sure if it's dried/old blood, or something else entirely; the dark brown looks like dried blood, but the lighter stuff not so much. I don't have more discharge than usual, it's just oddly colored.

Also, I got my period on Thursday, or at least thought I did. I felt it come, and there was the blood. I put in an Instead that night, and when I took it out the next morning, there was some dryer (dark brown) blood on it, but nothing to indicate a ful-blown period, and no cramps. And there's been no red blood since. I haven't a clue what's going on, and hope to see a doctor within the next week or two, but does anyone have any ideas what's happening?