Many of the things you describe are what I absolutely consider crossing the line. Using his size/power to enter you without protection on a day when you want/need it (up to a minute or two???)? Definitely a problem. Continuing to thrust when sex starts to hurt (for several MINUTES?????i'd toss off my SO of many years if there is any more than an extra two or three slow down thrusts when I tell him to stop)?
He is a graduate student. He presumably has brains in his head and ears that can listen to you. PLEASE assert yourself and assert that these sorts of behavior are NOT ok. Please assert that this is his final warning. If it were me, I might be willing to assume he was just dense and had a misogynistic streak flarup during these slippery moments, but after a stern talk..well, these actions would constitute rape. No means no. Stop means stop right now (not after you've had a few minutes to get your jollies).
Even if these are a tiny tiny fraction of your experiences, they happen(ed) and must stop if you are uncomfortable with it. If he continues, please don't hesitate to end the relationship because its only a "tiny tiny fraction".
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Date: 2012-05-01 05:12 am (UTC)He is a graduate student. He presumably has brains in his head and ears that can listen to you. PLEASE assert yourself and assert that these sorts of behavior are NOT ok. Please assert that this is his final warning. If it were me, I might be willing to assume he was just dense and had a misogynistic streak flarup during these slippery moments, but after a stern talk..well, these actions would constitute rape. No means no. Stop means stop right now (not after you've had a few minutes to get your jollies).
Even if these are a tiny tiny fraction of your experiences, they happen(ed) and must stop if you are uncomfortable with it. If he continues, please don't hesitate to end the relationship because its only a "tiny tiny fraction".