I was just thinking about this subject today. I get harassed nearly every time I go out (in the summer, anyway). I just ignore it, walk on by, and get called a bitch or something similar for doing so.
Something happened to me recently. I was walking through a parking lot and a guy stops to talk to me. I say I have to go and he keeps driving beside me pestering me. He just wont let it go. Says he wants to introduce himself. He's trying to act all smooth but it's so laughably cheesy. Says I am gorgeous and must tire of the attention. I say, I really must be going. He insists on taking me out. I say that I have a boyfriend, thanks anyway. Walk away fast. He drives away REALLY slowly.
Later that week I am in a completely different parking lot in another area of town, and I see him again! He uses the same cheesy line, not knowing it's me. I say that he's used that before. He says we must be destined in the stars to meet again. I say, yeah sure. I say I have a boyfriend, this isn't going anywhere. He says if we meet again its fate, and we will have to go out then. I say, well I guess we'll see? I have to go now. I leave.
I can't stand situations like this, they make me extremely anxious, as I have social anxiety to begin with. I was trying to be nice, but then I feel that maybe he might get the idea that I am being coy. I don't know what to say without getting him mad? But then I wonder, who cares if he gets mad and says something nasty? Why should I care? But it will upset me, and I know it, and I hate that.
I get a lot of the yells and whatever else too. They really make me anxious. It makes me wish I never went out. I don't feel safe when it happens. I feel vulnerable. I can't stand it and I wish I could make it stop but I don't know how. I try not to wear clothing that shows my body anymore, but in the summer, I have to. I often don't even go out that much in the summer anymore.
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Date: 2012-03-20 01:38 am (UTC)Something happened to me recently. I was walking through a parking lot and a guy stops to talk to me. I say I have to go and he keeps driving beside me pestering me. He just wont let it go. Says he wants to introduce himself. He's trying to act all smooth but it's so laughably cheesy. Says I am gorgeous and must tire of the attention. I say, I really must be going. He insists on taking me out. I say that I have a boyfriend, thanks anyway. Walk away fast. He drives away REALLY slowly.
Later that week I am in a completely different parking lot in another area of town, and I see him again! He uses the same cheesy line, not knowing it's me. I say that he's used that before. He says we must be destined in the stars to meet again. I say, yeah sure. I say I have a boyfriend, this isn't going anywhere. He says if we meet again its fate, and we will have to go out then. I say, well I guess we'll see? I have to go now. I leave.
I can't stand situations like this, they make me extremely anxious, as I have social anxiety to begin with. I was trying to be nice, but then I feel that maybe he might get the idea that I am being coy. I don't know what to say without getting him mad? But then I wonder, who cares if he gets mad and says something nasty? Why should I care? But it will upset me, and I know it, and I hate that.
I get a lot of the yells and whatever else too. They really make me anxious. It makes me wish I never went out. I don't feel safe when it happens. I feel vulnerable. I can't stand it and I wish I could make it stop but I don't know how. I try not to wear clothing that shows my body anymore, but in the summer, I have to. I often don't even go out that much in the summer anymore.
It makes me so mad that I am controlled by this!