"Darling Dear, I have some mixed emotions going on that I'd like to talk with you about." (not to...with.) "I absolutely respect your boundaries and don't want to pressure you, can we talk about what led you to decide (particular boundary) about (particular thing)? I love you so much that I get all carbonated hormones and Disney chemicals going on, and want to make sure that we're ok and that you don't think I'm pressuring you for something you don't want right now."
Or something. Maybe schedule ice cream after dinner one night, and discuss things while having wholesome ice cream....and try not to lick the spoon in suggestive ways! (ok, so that's something I do to TheEngineer on a regular basis, teasing him. But we're in year 4 of marriage, too.)
Be honest and respectful and keep communication open between the two of you. Good luck!
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Date: 2012-03-12 05:24 am (UTC)Or something. Maybe schedule ice cream after dinner one night, and discuss things while having wholesome ice cream....and try not to lick the spoon in suggestive ways! (ok, so that's something I do to TheEngineer on a regular basis, teasing him. But we're in year 4 of marriage, too.)
Be honest and respectful and keep communication open between the two of you. Good luck!