And, to add to this- orgasm is a tricky creature. i didn't have my first until i was 24- like anything else, everyone has a different experience. It doesn't mean there's anything 'wrong' with your body, it simply means you haven't figured out what works yet. Try not to focus on orgasm as the ultimate goal- instead, spend some time with yourself just fantasizing, touching, figuring out what feels good. i think fantasy is a key thing- let your imagination go! It'll take you to some interesting places.
Two things that helped when i was Figuring It Out (TM): 1: Indirect clitoral stimulation. A vibrator on the labia just around/below the clitoris felt much better than directly on the clitoris itself- too sensitive! 2: Blood flow. To that end, breathing deeply and clenching/unclenching the butt muscles seems to force more blood into the vaginal area, which makes things feel really good.
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Date: 2011-12-31 05:12 pm (UTC)Two things that helped when i was Figuring It Out (TM):
1: Indirect clitoral stimulation. A vibrator on the labia just around/below the clitoris felt much better than directly on the clitoris itself- too sensitive!
2: Blood flow. To that end, breathing deeply and clenching/unclenching the butt muscles seems to force more blood into the vaginal area, which makes things feel really good.