It's really hard...a lot of things that are clearly inappropriate parenting are not considered abuse. For better or for worse, parents have a lot of latitude about how they treat their children. And yeah...standing him in the corner like that would not be enough for CPS to mandate anything, at least not based on what I've seen. It has to be pretty bad (from what I've seen, very physically dangerous to a child) before CPS can force parents to do anything at all, and of course if they can't find for sure that it is very dangerous, they can't legally require anything.
But, you are NOT CRAZY. Children should not be treated like that...they just shouldn't. You're trapped in a system kind of like the one at Penn State. You know how there was all that outcry - "how come no one ever said anything!?" Well, no one ever said anything because that system works the same as a lot of family systems. Abuse embedded within a whole lot of denial and unwillingness to admit the problem...not just on the part of the abuser. You are not crazy though - you are the one who is thinking clearly about this.
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Date: 2011-12-14 01:31 am (UTC)It's really hard...a lot of things that are clearly inappropriate parenting are not considered abuse. For better or for worse, parents have a lot of latitude about how they treat their children. And yeah...standing him in the corner like that would not be enough for CPS to mandate anything, at least not based on what I've seen. It has to be pretty bad (from what I've seen, very physically dangerous to a child) before CPS can force parents to do anything at all, and of course if they can't find for sure that it is very dangerous, they can't legally require anything.
But, you are NOT CRAZY. Children should not be treated like that...they just shouldn't. You're trapped in a system kind of like the one at Penn State. You know how there was all that outcry - "how come no one ever said anything!?" Well, no one ever said anything because that system works the same as a lot of family systems. Abuse embedded within a whole lot of denial and unwillingness to admit the problem...not just on the part of the abuser. You are not crazy though - you are the one who is thinking clearly about this.