Hymenectomy?

[rinnychan.livejournal.com]

I went to the gyno for the first time a few weeks ago, hoping to get myself one because I believed (mistakenly, as it turns out) that I had a septate hymen. It turns out I just have a really small opening. But when I even brought it up to the doctor, she continued to question me, asking "why do you think you need this?" and eventually the subject was dropped. Am I right to feel kind of annoyed that she wrote me off? Should I seek another doctor to do it for me, or is this the kind of thing you should only do if it's really necessary? Thanks :)

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comfortable

[burning-letterz.livejournal.com]

if its any consolation you really need to feel comfortable with your gyno. And if you feel like you've been written off then maybe you should 'shop around' so to speak, ask other women you feel comfortable with about what they recomend. mainly ask women in your local area who your comfortable with who they recomend as a good gyno. thats how i found my DR ^_^ hope this helps

[trista-zevkia.livejournal.com]

If you need one or not isn't the whole issue. You need a competent medical professional who will talk you through your issues to make you understand your options. If she brushed off your concerns and made you feel foolish, you need to find a new gyno, one who will listen. Same goes for all doctors.

[bitter-suite24.livejournal.com]

I'm new here, but I agree with the above posters. You need to be comfortable with your doctor. If you feel like you were written off, you might want to think about finding a new one. As for the hymenectomy I had one years ago for the same reason that you want one. My opening was so small I couldn't even insert a junior sized tampon. Unlike you, my doctor was the one to suggest it. It really helped me, and I think it could help you too.

[archangelbeth]

I would say it is new doctor time. It is possible that you could call this one on her judgmental attitude, and train her with firmness, but that's really a bit of work. (There are two reasons to want a hymenectomy: tampons, and wanting pain-free penetration. Why would she have to ask you why you think you need it? The only reason to talk you out of it would be if you had never tried any stretching or penetrative activities (and therefore didn't know if it would be an easily stretched/torn hymen), or because the doctor is judgmental about people, OMG, wanting to put THINGS in their VAGINAS without PAIN before MARRIAGE, OMG OMG OMG! O:p )

(Yes, there is a chance of scarring with a hymenectomy. On the other hand, I cannot see how a non-medical tearing of the hymen would not carry the same or greater risk, if the tissue is so tough that you'd be thinking hymenectomy in the first place. It's just there'd be no doctor present to theoretically sue. O:p )

So, if you want to try training this one, you could go back and say, "This thick hymen isn't tearing or stretching, and is causing me pain whenever I try to put anything in my vagina. I want a hymenectomy." If she asks why, you can always turn it around and say, "Well, why do you think someone might want a hymenectomy?" (Be bland, calm, and non-sarcastic. If she blows up, smile sweetly and pick up your medical records at the front desk. There might be a photocopying fee.)

But it might well be less stress for you to find someone else.

Good luck!

[ce-quelle-a-dit.livejournal.com]

I agree with everyone above: definitely time for a new doctor. There's no reason for her to blow it off. She should have discussed the situation with you and provided you with the options that are available. It's so important to have a good relationship with your gyno. It's hard enough baring yourself to a stranger as it is. It certainly doesn't help if they are making you feel even less at ease.

[jaelle-n-gilla.livejournal.com]

Well, as they all said: you need to feel comfy with your gyn. Yet I expect every doctor to ask you the same question: Why? A doctor who agrees to do any kind of surgery, no matter how small, without asking, is a quack. It depends how the conversation really went. If she wrote you off, even though you gave her a valid reason, get a new doc. If she was just insisting to know why you'd want it before she does it, that's her duty.

[lironess.livejournal.com]

Definitely kick her to the curb and if you get the nerve tell her off. You should always be treated in a respectful an open manner with your gyno.

Maybe try Planned Parenthood and see if they still have the well woman program or get an exam there...they are much more open about reality there I hear..

[rinnychan.livejournal.com]

This was planned parenthood x_x

[rosenrott.livejournal.com]

Honestly, some of the worst doctors I've ever come in contact with worked at Planned Parenthood. So this doesn't surprise me lol.

I'd find a new doctor.