You know what...I am having trouble even responding to this in a calm manner, it's so outrageous to me. Here's my best attempt:
Her boyfriend broke an agreement that they had about the guidelines in their relationship. Period. If that's not cheating, not betrayal, then I don't know what is. The fact that he is now admitting it doesn't make the hurt any less real. I hate hate hate your implication that the OP should set aside her personal hurts and try to support her boyfriend in HIS hard time. Her hurt is real, is valid, and deserves support too. Yes he needs support right now...but it's not really appropriate to ask for support from someone that you have seriously betrayed. He needs to find that in other places. The reality is that yes, he seems to have a problem...but just like it's not all about the OP, it's not all about the boyfriend either. His actions, his problem, has had serious consequences for their relationship, and he needs to face up to those...they can't just be brushed aside while she supports him through his hard time.
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Date: 2011-08-02 09:21 pm (UTC)Her boyfriend broke an agreement that they had about the guidelines in their relationship. Period. If that's not cheating, not betrayal, then I don't know what is. The fact that he is now admitting it doesn't make the hurt any less real. I hate hate hate your implication that the OP should set aside her personal hurts and try to support her boyfriend in HIS hard time. Her hurt is real, is valid, and deserves support too. Yes he needs support right now...but it's not really appropriate to ask for support from someone that you have seriously betrayed. He needs to find that in other places. The reality is that yes, he seems to have a problem...but just like it's not all about the OP, it's not all about the boyfriend either. His actions, his problem, has had serious consequences for their relationship, and he needs to face up to those...they can't just be brushed aside while she supports him through his hard time.