Down-stairs mix-up: potential ulcers

[obscurexgrey.livejournal.com]

My girlfriend has some pretty startling things going on in her nether-regions.

Two nights ago, she was complaining of faint blood that appeared on her toilet tissue. The next afternoon, she was soaking in the bathtub and informed me that she thought she felt a bunch of lumps in her vaginal opening. I went to look, honestly not really thinking there would be much, and the first thing I saw from a distance, when I parted her labia was what looked like a cut. I wasn't very surprised, because she has rather long nails, but she told me to feel further inside, and then I was surprised.

Not necessarily in her vagina, but very close to her opening, on her left side of her labia minora, and closer to her clitoris, on the right, were a number of what looked like sores. We went upstairs and I took a closer look, and they looked like scabs, when they are dampened for a period of time. The outer area was a red color, with a very white covering in the center.

Now, today, they are much darker, closer to a maroonish-black color, with the same whiteness- but they seem to be merging, on the lower part, closer to her opening. So, there is a big cluster of about five of those sores, just fusing together, apparently, with the whiteness starting to vanish, totally. She is complaining of soreness, stinging, and oozing, which doesn't surprise me.

We are attempting to arrange a referral to an urgent care facility, immediately, but the doctor doesn't seem to be responding. Worst-case, we're going to the ER.

Rambling aside, I found one picture of a vulvar-type ulcer, which seemed to fit closest with placement and shape, coloring aside. We aren't quite sure what to think of this as, even though we shouldn't really be self-diagnosing.

First thing that comes to mind is herpes or some sort of STD, which makes me feel guilty, for being her only sexual partner. However, I've been screened for a few things and came out clear, but a few isn't all, so, I'm worrying that I've given her something, unknowingly, which would mean that I've been toting it around for around five years.

In short:
Has anyone had any experiences with ulcers in this region?

Comments

[sandi1743.livejournal.com]

i am inclined to think of HSv - which is usually not tested for or a latex allergy- do you all use latex condoms?

[obscurexgrey.livejournal.com]

Our sexual experience is pretty limited. The furthest penetration from me to her has been through my fingers. I've performed oral sex on her one time, just over a year ago.

The only instance of us using a condom was when she put on a strap-on and penetrated me with it, which, barring some sort of reaction to the fabric of the harness, doesn't seem like it would affect her much to me, at least.

[archangelbeth]

Do you get, or have you ever gotten, cold sores? (Because those are oral herpes, and in the absence of antibodies, HSV-1 (the usual culprit for cold sores) will jump to the genitals pretty happily. They can also jump from mouth to hand to genital, if done quickly enough, though the virus does not like to be dry, so if "several minutes" and "dry hands" are involved, that's not a likely vector at all.)

Do try to get them swabbed quickly, as HSV is sometimes hard to catch if it's stopped shedding contagious virus bits. The other way to identify it is to get a blood test at the first outbreak (which will be negative if its the very first outbreak, because the body doesn't have detectable numbers of antibodies to it yet), and then 2-3 months later (when the body will have made antibodies).

Good luck!

[obscurexgrey.livejournal.com]

Luckily, I can say that I have never had a cold sore, in my life. I just have this vaguely-irrational, "I've been sexually active, she hasn't, this is my fault" guilt, and I'm worried that I've done something to her.

Tomorrow, she has an appointment at a clinic nearby, and I'm hoping to tag along and hear good news.

[archangelbeth]

While it's not impossible that you vectored something, it does sound unlikely that the most likely cause of a vaginal ulcer... Um, that sentence got too convoluted. Let me start over. >_>

It doesn't sound probable that you vectored HSV to her, so with luck, it'll be something very simple to cure. Maybe even just a friction burn/blister, if she self-penetrates with larger toys? (I have a suspicion that I managed to give myself something along those lines, once... >_> Slightly embarrassing details available upon request, though, for educational purposes. *wry grin*)

Anyway, still wishing luck to y'all!

[obscurexgrey.livejournal.com]

There's been no penetration since Thursday, via my fingers, so, we immediately ruled out some sort of trauma that was directly inflicted that way.

It's kind of frightening, because the lower sores have fused into one large sore. It keeps changing and that worries me.

But thanks for responding, either way.