Are you nursing? Breastfeeding can do a job on your hormones, and many people find that their sex drives are lower, they tear more easily and lubrication is a lot harder. It may resolve over time, some people find that their doctor or midwife will prescribe an estrogen cream that helps.
Is your tear totally healed? Some people heal more slowly than others, and it's possible that you're irritating it again and again and opening it back up. That's something that your midwife or doctor may check out for you if you haven't had a postpartum follow up yet.
I had "a skid mark" after my first baby was born and it still took almost a year before sex felt good again. I know after my second, while sex felt okay much sooner (no tears, no skid marks, just a hematoma at the introitus, and that was gone very soon) I had no sex drive until she was over a year old.
Even a small tear can cause scar tissue, which takes a lot of time to relax and stretch and which doesn't lubricate the same way that the other vaginal tissue does.
It gets better. Lots of lube, take it easy, be patient, and it you notice that it doesn't start to improve in a few months, then it may be time to talk to your midwife or doctor.
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Date: 2011-03-15 01:51 am (UTC)Is your tear totally healed? Some people heal more slowly than others, and it's possible that you're irritating it again and again and opening it back up. That's something that your midwife or doctor may check out for you if you haven't had a postpartum follow up yet.
I had "a skid mark" after my first baby was born and it still took almost a year before sex felt good again. I know after my second, while sex felt okay much sooner (no tears, no skid marks, just a hematoma at the introitus, and that was gone very soon) I had no sex drive until she was over a year old.
Even a small tear can cause scar tissue, which takes a lot of time to relax and stretch and which doesn't lubricate the same way that the other vaginal tissue does.
It gets better. Lots of lube, take it easy, be patient, and it you notice that it doesn't start to improve in a few months, then it may be time to talk to your midwife or doctor.
Congratulations on your baby.