Mum said something about 'people who aren't straight,' I replied with 'you know, I'm not straight.' She said 'what, are you bisexual?' I said 'no, I'm not sure, I guess I call myself queer' (which is not what I'd say now, I was still caught up in fighting the bisexual tends to mean promiscuous kind of label). Mum said 'I don't want to know' and made a face :\ I think my dad has picked up on it and has a similar 'I don't want to know' kind of thing.
My friends and co-workers pick up on it slowly, but I wear my rainbows with pride nowadays (used to feel I didn't have a place wearing pride items when I had heterosexual priviledge by my appearance and het relationship at the time) and that tends to let people know I'm at least comfortable talking about orientation.
Good luck to you, remember labels are good starting points and suggestions, they're not boxes you should try and force yourself into. It's more common to be attracted to mostly men or mostly women, bisexuality is not 50/50 men/women most of the time.
Try and just tell them you're dating a woman...and if they ask 'so, you're gay now?' just say no, you date men and women...putting it that way rather than using the bisexual label (which can be culturally loaded) might help.
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Date: 2011-02-27 02:42 pm (UTC)My friends and co-workers pick up on it slowly, but I wear my rainbows with pride nowadays (used to feel I didn't have a place wearing pride items when I had heterosexual priviledge by my appearance and het relationship at the time) and that tends to let people know I'm at least comfortable talking about orientation.
Good luck to you, remember labels are good starting points and suggestions, they're not boxes you should try and force yourself into. It's more common to be attracted to mostly men or mostly women, bisexuality is not 50/50 men/women most of the time.
Try and just tell them you're dating a woman...and if they ask 'so, you're gay now?' just say no, you date men and women...putting it that way rather than using the bisexual label (which can be culturally loaded) might help.