Actually, he did literally assault you. You were clearly displaying signs of extreme intoxication and discomfort, and you only "consented" under duress. An ethical person would not have had sex with you under those circumstances. What he did was wrong. What you did was try to safely get out of a situation you never should have been put into in the first place. That doesn't make you stupid or bad or worthless.
I don't know much about your grad program, so I can't tell you how to avoid him. It's fine to just put it out of your mind for now, but you will probably find yourself needing to process it at a later date. If and when that happens, you could call a rape crisis hotline and talk to a trained counselor. Whether or not you could theoretically build a legal case against this guy, you did NOT experience this as consensual, and that means you may benefit from a rape crisis counselor's perspective. *hug*
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Date: 2010-05-29 05:51 pm (UTC)I don't know much about your grad program, so I can't tell you how to avoid him. It's fine to just put it out of your mind for now, but you will probably find yourself needing to process it at a later date. If and when that happens, you could call a rape crisis hotline and talk to a trained counselor. Whether or not you could theoretically build a legal case against this guy, you did NOT experience this as consensual, and that means you may benefit from a rape crisis counselor's perspective. *hug*