Just to add that my thoughts will be with you, and I'm sure I'm not the only VPer who wishes they could be at your side to help you through this.
I think it's best to make sure you actively avoid this person on campus and in class if at all possible. Maybe tell lecturers/group leaders that you would prefer not to be paired with him or in a group with him in class. They should respect that. I'm worried that any dialogue at all will give him a chance to reframe this as a fling, or one night stand, as this is very common. I'd hate to see any internal resolution you come to undermined by those tactics that are specifically designed to induce self-doubt.
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Date: 2010-05-29 03:46 pm (UTC)I think it's best to make sure you actively avoid this person on campus and in class if at all possible. Maybe tell lecturers/group leaders that you would prefer not to be paired with him or in a group with him in class. They should respect that. I'm worried that any dialogue at all will give him a chance to reframe this as a fling, or one night stand, as this is very common. I'd hate to see any internal resolution you come to undermined by those tactics that are specifically designed to induce self-doubt.