Ooph. I can assure you that there's nothing wrong with you that you can't "sit there and take it": an hour or more of penetration is going to be very, um, irritating and downright painful on the majority of vaginas, and "taking it" shouldn't be a key feature of a mutually satisfying sex life.
On average, the penetrative portion of sexual intercourse lasts about seven to 10 minutes; that's more or less what our bodies are designed to handle comfortably (with some variation of course), and you guys are going wayyyy over that. I don't think your body is going to "get used to him." I suspect your body probably needs a serious break from prolonged penetrative friction.
One thing I would suggest is working with your partner to ensure sex stops when it begins to become painful. Exposure to repeated painful penetration can sometimes lead to, well, increasingly painful penetration, as it can cause the vaginal muscles to uncontrollably tense as part of a subconscious anticipation of pain.
Plus, both you and your partner deserve to enjoy sex when it isn't causing one of you extreme pain!
I second the recommendations to talk to him about possibly ceasing masturbation or at least masturbating with a relatively gentle touch; I also suggest waiting to initiate penetration until he's much closer to orgasm via foreplay. If, during penetration, things start becoming too much, another trick is to have him simply pull out and finish via masturbation or oral or manual stimulation from you.
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Date: 2010-04-12 06:23 am (UTC)On average, the penetrative portion of sexual intercourse lasts about seven to 10 minutes; that's more or less what our bodies are designed to handle comfortably (with some variation of course), and you guys are going wayyyy over that. I don't think your body is going to "get used to him." I suspect your body probably needs a serious break from prolonged penetrative friction.
One thing I would suggest is working with your partner to ensure sex stops when it begins to become painful. Exposure to repeated painful penetration can sometimes lead to, well, increasingly painful penetration, as it can cause the vaginal muscles to uncontrollably tense as part of a subconscious anticipation of pain.
Plus, both you and your partner deserve to enjoy sex when it isn't causing one of you extreme pain!
I second the recommendations to talk to him about possibly ceasing masturbation or at least masturbating with a relatively gentle touch; I also suggest waiting to initiate penetration until he's much closer to orgasm via foreplay. If, during penetration, things start becoming too much, another trick is to have him simply pull out and finish via masturbation or oral or manual stimulation from you.