sexual positions and ouchiness...

[shainamaydel.livejournal.com]

Hi y'all, I haven't posted here in a loooooong time cuz my vajayjay has been doin' pretty well. It's still good and all, I just have a question that I can't think who else could answer!


So, my bf and i have sex. good. yay. we tend to stick to missionary, because it works damn fine for both of us. however, every once in a while we get the idea to try and change it up. me on top works pretty well, so we were doing that this morning, and he asked me to try reverse cowgirl. okay, worth a shot. but...OW. OW OW OW. sharp almost crampy pain! it *hurt*. Last time i tried doggy style it hurt way too much as well, which sucks cuz the idea of it works for me, just the execution doesn't.

do you lovely ladies think this is because of my cervix position, or what? is it odd? I use a divacup and have never had problems with my cervix being in a bad place, but is there any other reason any rear-entry type positions are horrid for me? i wish one of you could be like, that's simple, here's a solution! because i really want to be able to do these things...lol. i won't hold my breath.



thanks!

Comments

[smplyscandalous.livejournal.com]

I would assume he was hitting your cervix, try not to let him go so deep as in you move more and he stays more still?
Did you also try leaning back/forward when in reverse cowgirl? That way perhaps his penis can bypass your cervix and not hit it every time he thrusts.

[shainamaydel.livejournal.com]

i did try leaning forwards and back, still the ouchiness. he's not even that big--maybe 5". :-/ and if i'm sitting on him, i can't really stop him from going as deep as he can, my thigh muscles are not that good! maybe if i get the guts to try doggy again i'll just tell him to keep it really shallow...

[smplyscandalous.livejournal.com]

Were you fully aroused? Your cervix will move further back and your vaginal cannel will lengthen the more aroused you become.
And when you use your cup, I know the diva is a long one, do you have problems with it sticking out?
It could be that your vaginal cannel is just short, and he is "bottoming out" or hitting the bottom of your vagina, as that causes me to crap up occasionally.
Do you experience cramps when you are in missionary with your legs close to your shoulders, or over his?
If not, my guess would be that he is hitting your cervix in which case sadly there isn't much you can do but have him make more shallow thrusts.
I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help!

[smplyscandalous.livejournal.com]

Oh one more quick question/suggestion.
When in reverse cowgirl, were your legs on top of his, or were you kneeling on either side of him?
If you weren't, you might want to try that as it will give you more control.

[shainamaydel.livejournal.com]

my diva goes all the way in, i didnt even have to cut the stem. i've never had a problem with it poking. i guess i could have been more aroused...maybe next time i'll try using a vibe while doing that? i'm one of those clitoral-orgasm-only gals, so PIV feels good but is not what gets me hot or off.
i *was* kneeling, i think...:-/ le sigh. thanks for your suggestions!

[tigergir11333.livejournal.com]

I have similar problems, Alot has to do with angle. My cervix is just there. I think it has something to do with my hips angling a certain way that leaves my cervix in a "low" position.. One solution is to angle in front or behind of it, for the hubs and me, this means really deep. Or just keep really shallow. Unless we're feeling the need to really change it up we don't bother with any rear-entry positions.


Also I spent waaaay too long reading your icon. XD

[shainamaydel.livejournal.com]

haha, yeah, my icon can do that :-)

i just feel bad sometimes cuz i'm my boyf's first, so he wants to try everything he's read about or seen videos of, and i'm just happy with missionary. oh well ;-P

[tigergir11333.livejournal.com]

Same for me and my husband. We try it, if it doesn't work, we sometimes try again, or chalk it up to not being for us. I think he's lucky to have someone willing to at least try, so kudos for that. ^_~

[caterpillgry.livejournal.com]

It's definitely easier from behind when you're a bit warmed up. I'd try switching after doing missionary for a while. Also, if you lie flat on your stomach (or relatively straight on your side) with legs together, he won't be going so deeep. Could be a good way to work up to it...