I've come to realize that doctors put a lot of faith into the institution of marriage----way more than I personally do. So while ageism is there, I think if you're 25 and having 'unprotected' sex with your HUSBAND, no one bats an eye. You're married. You probably want kids anyways. Even if you (shock, horror) don't, the fact that you're married means you'll find a way to pull through and deal with the responsibilities of having children.
And worst of all, its as if being married protects you from cheating and the risk of STDs. Being married does NOT ensure against adultery. NOTHING does, except the individuals themselves. Yet married people are not expected to use condoms.
Meanwhile, I will probably face this prejudice well into my thirties. I have an active sex life and I have no plans to marry until I feel my relationship will become stressful without taking part in the many priviledges and rights straight people accuire upon marrying in this country. While my trust in my partner is deep enough that I do not worry about STDs, I know that all I have is my trust, regardless of our marital status.
I started having sex when I was 14; I dated the boy for two years exclusively. At that age I had more common sense in my little finger than certain adults I knew had in their entire bodies. I have been told that having sex that young pre-disposes me, statistically, to make bad judgements in the future, drop out of highschool, fail college courses, and earn below the poverty line, but I think that those statistics really only hold water considering the puritanical stigma our country has towards teenagers having sex, leading to unreliable information, misinformation, or no information at all. How can teenagers be expected to behave responsibly when we treat them like complete children and the subject of sex is such a taboo?
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Rant right with you.
Date: 2009-11-22 05:02 am (UTC)And worst of all, its as if being married protects you from cheating and the risk of STDs. Being married does NOT ensure against adultery. NOTHING does, except the individuals themselves. Yet married people are not expected to use condoms.
Meanwhile, I will probably face this prejudice well into my thirties. I have an active sex life and I have no plans to marry until I feel my relationship will become stressful without taking part in the many priviledges and rights straight people accuire upon marrying in this country. While my trust in my partner is deep enough that I do not worry about STDs, I know that all I have is my trust, regardless of our marital status.
I started having sex when I was 14; I dated the boy for two years exclusively. At that age I had more common sense in my little finger than certain adults I knew had in their entire bodies. I have been told that having sex that young pre-disposes me, statistically, to make bad judgements in the future, drop out of highschool, fail college courses, and earn below the poverty line, but I think that those statistics really only hold water considering the puritanical stigma our country has towards teenagers having sex, leading to unreliable information, misinformation, or no information at all. How can teenagers be expected to behave responsibly when we treat them like complete children and the subject of sex is such a taboo?
A little O/T, sorry, but I still agree.