Masturbation

[of-wings.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I use self-stimulation as a pain-stress reliever, or as a source of self-soothing/comfort when I'm having trouble sleeping away from my boyfriend.

I know some women go all out for their pleasure sessions- candles, music, sexy clothes.. while others end up randomly pleasuring themselves while watching their favorite soap, but...

What kind of self-pleasurer are you?

Casual, constant, bored, well-planned, mutual?

Comments

[isolt.livejournal.com]

I'm mostly a before-naps kind of masturbator. Sometimes I'll masturbate while driving at night for some much-needed diversion in the car, and sometimes when I'm unbearably horny, but mostly it's about sleep for me.

[of-wings.livejournal.com]

I've had some of THE most amazing naps after a good session.

[livingdeadgyrl.livejournal.com]

I masturbate when I'm bored, but usually, I use it as a stress reliever. If I'm really stressed out, or if I don't feel good, I attempt to make myself better by masturbating.
Which works, btw.
Yay for cheap thrills. :P

-Miss Fetisha

[of-wings.livejournal.com]

Yay for a l l sorts of thrills. ;)

[mangofandango.livejournal.com]

It varies for me. Usually it's casual, and as you said, used as a pain or stress reliever (it's one of the big things I try when I get a bad headache, actually). or just as a comforting thing to do when I've had a long day or I'm bored. It's also often mutual - I do it with my husband quite often, either after sex (if I'm just not coming that day) or sometimes instead of it (when we want to do it, but it's late or we don't have enough time or whatever). Sometimes there's porn involved, but not usually, and I usually use my vibrator, but once in a while I use just my hand (or we use each other's hands).

Now I want to go masturbate. Instead I need to go apply for a job. Heh. :)

[of-wings.livejournal.com]

How did you first start mutually masturbating with your husband? My boyfriend and I have an amazing sexlife, we'll touch ourselves (a squeeze here, some cup-age there) but we've never brought ourselves to climax in front of each other. What's a good way to add that into the mix?

[mangofandango.livejournal.com]

I don't really remember how we first started doing that. Sometimes it happened because one of us was doing it and the other just thought it looked like fun and joined in. ;) Now sometimes when I wander off to do it, I ask him if he'd like to join me. Sometimes that ends up leading to other kinds of sex, but sometimes we just masturbate together and enjoy that. Oh, it's also a popular activity when I have a yeast infection or something that makes all other forms of sex a bad idea - I went through a time when I had a lot of infections, so it may have become more of a regular thing then.

At any rate, I think you should try it. Next time you're going to masturbate, maybe just ask your boyfriend along. It's fun for everyone involved. ;)

[longlivethecow.livejournal.com]

I masturbate when I'm really bored or really horny. Masturbation doesn't do much for me much anymore, though. ;/ So I only do it when I'm desperate.

[of-wings.livejournal.com]

Oh, no! What went wrong?

[longlivethecow.livejournal.com]

Did it too much. :x

[of-wings.livejournal.com]

... and I thought that was just a myth. ;D

[longlivethecow.livejournal.com]

I just need to buy a vibe. :p Damn noth aving a credit card and damn not being over 18!

[rkt.livejournal.com]

do you have any friends who could aid and abett you in getting a vibe?

[americanbeauty.livejournal.com]

Yup! Same thing for me. However, I don't think that it doesn't do much because I didn't do it too much. I just think that in my ripe old age of 19 I'm losing my sex drive! haha. Sounds kind of funny, but in reality it's like no joke. It's gone for the most part.

I'm on Yasmin if that has anything to do with it. I'm also pretty overweight. Plus my recent ex (who I lost my virignity to) sucked hardcore in bed. What do ya think?

[longlivethecow.livejournal.com]

Oh I have plenty of sex drive, masturbation just doesn't cut it anymore. :(

[of-wings.livejournal.com]

My last ex was horrific in bed. He lasted all of 15 seconds and wasn't good orally or manually- I spent those four months ridiculously frustrated in bed. Before he'd come over, I'd pleasure myself so I wouldn't be so disappointed later on... but that didn't even help all that much.

My current boyfriend is amazing, but I find myself masturbating even more now. He'll be at work or out somewhere and I'll miss him. I'll start thinking about us- maybe about something that happened the night before- and I just can't help myself!

I don't know that much about Yasmin, but my BCP's never had much of an effect on my sex drive.

As for being overweight, I've found that masturbation really helps self-esteem and self-love.

If you don't love your body for what it is, it's going to be harder (but, by all means not impossible) for someone else to!

[americanbeauty.livejournal.com]

Oh, I love my body. No problem there. I just thought that somehow that may be a cause.

[eternalmaiden.livejournal.com]

The age thing is a myth... I'm 23 and went from diagnosed nymphomaniac to a "distressingly low" sex drive in a matter of two years, combination of meds and the depression the meds should treat. I'm told birth control can be a factor.

Don't wait, talk to your MD about it ASAP. I wish I had.

[melena.livejournal.com]

i'm another before naps or bed kind of person, but also i do it sometimes while i am say watching tv or reading a book. it's not that i am turned on necessarily by what i am watching or reading, i think it's just part of the relaxation of those activities. i've tried to have more 'all-out pleasure sessions', but i climax wayyy too easily with my vibrator so its never worth it. i use my hands the other times (before bed, etc.), but those times i am usually just trying to come as quickly as possible and i am really good with my fingers for that purpose... also i have been masturbating before bed since i was 4 (though not every night, don't get me wrong), and while reading, etc., since i was 7 or 8 i guess.

when you say mutual, do you mean at the same time as your partner? because if so, no, but sometimes my boyfriend and i both masturbate me at the same time (if i am having trouble climaxing, sometimes after sex and sometimes just while messing around), or occaisionally i will do it myself in front of him post-sex if i haven't climaxed.

whew! that's a lot of stuff i never told anyone.

[of-wings.livejournal.com]

Thanks for sharing!

I started to masturbate at a young age as well. I remember discovering my clit while sitting on my foot, watching tv. From then on, I'd go into my room to 'tickle myself' quite often!

[katlynel.livejournal.com]

I'm a chronic insomniac, so I use it to help me go to sleep. I also masturbate when I feel tense. Sometimes, I just sort of ... feel like having an orgasm. Which isn't the same as being horny; I actually rarely masturbate when I'm horny (though I frankly rarely feel "horny" any more).

[katlynel.livejournal.com]

I'm a chronic insomniac, so I use it to help me go to sleep. I also masturbate when I feel tense. Sometimes, I just sort of ... feel like having an orgasm. Which isn't the same as being horny; I actually rarely masturbate when I'm horny (though I frankly rarely feel "horny" any more).

[blackberrysoda.livejournal.com]

i masturbate every 3 to 4 days, sometimes one a week or twice, mainly because when i do it i have awesome orgasms, including when my fiance visits for a week once a month because he lives 5 hours away, i don't masturbate because we have sex and he pleasures me. :) Plus i can't orgasm during sex, so when i do "play" (as i call it) it feels so much better.

[ex-caramella369.livejournal.com]

I always do it before I go to bed, in the bathroom under the faucet type thing in the bath tub. then I'll go to bed and masturbate some more, haha. I used to do it to try to get things off my mind but I've found it doesn't help that much. That's just me though. Running helps get things off my mind a lot better :)

[mittens-of-doom.livejournal.com]

I'm a in front of the TV with my vibrator sort of girl.

[sandyleeann.livejournal.com]

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