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[sweetheartashie.livejournal.com]

Hey I've never posted here before, and I have a question relating to vaginal fluids and female orgasms, etc. Well, lately, when my fiance and I have been having sex, a BUNCH of white sticky fluid comes out of me and we just can't figure it out for the life of us! It's sticky and has no odor at all....We use lube so we are thinking maybe it's that? But that's never happened before so I am mystefied. I have never had an orgasm from sex (as far as i know?) and we have been having sex for a couple years now, so is it true what they say - that some females just don't have orgasms? I haven't had one ever, not from oral, masturbation or sex(or maybe I have and just didn't know it because of lack of knowing what to expect)..at least, though it still feels incredible the whole time, but it just seems there is just never a "peak" to it. So is it possible that a female cannot have orgasms? Is this related to fertility at all? There is a chance that I could be pregnant right now too (50/50 pretty much) soo...maybe my white fluid has to do with that? I'd love to believe it was ejaculate, but I am just not sure if it is or not, it could be...but the female orgasm is soo...undefinable! Another reason I often believe I haven't had an orgasm is because I don't emit and fluids (until lately) but I heard only a certain percent of females actually ejaculate, but no matter how good it feels to me, so long as i don't "ejaculate", i think pretty much that I've never orgasmed.(maybe that's a psychological thing in my mind hehe) Hmm..the female orgasmn is just too confusing, males have it soo easy! Please help tell me what is going on if you know anything about the related subjects, thanks so much..!

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[thevargasgirl.livejournal.com]

i know what youre saying. i didnt have much of an orgasm ever until i started concentrating on the pleasure as opposed to the actual orgasm itself. it takes a LOT of concentration for me to orgasm, but when i do, my legs shake so bad i can barely walk to the bathroom to pee.
and ive ejaculated once when i didnt think id orgasmed. we were going for g-spot orgasm and i made him stop cause the feeling was just too intense. when i came back he told me before i made him stop id whooshed all over his hand.
-=t

[katlynel.livejournal.com]

I've never had an orgasm from intercourse either :) Supposedly, a majority of women don't orgasm from just vaginal penetration. For me, like you said, intercourse feels fantastic but doesn't have any peaks. But I have orgasms from masturbation all the time, and I can orgasm from cunnilingus too. Capacity for orgasm isn't really related to fertility. Perhaps you're having orgasms and don't know it, or more likely you're just not peaking. Have you considered investing in a vibrator? I had a lot of trouble orgasming from masturbation until I got one -- a vibrator on the clit really does work wonders. I had an earthshaking orgasm in about five seconds.

I guess the other question is whether you feel you have to orgasm. You seem very sexually satisfied as-is. Maybe it's not such a big deal if you can't -- sure, still something to work toward, but you shouldn't feel inferior or like there's something wrong with you in the meantime as long as you yourself are enjoying sex and happy sexually. It could even be that the pressure you're putting on yourself to reach orgasm might be interfering with your ability to do so.

The white fluid could be lots of things -- it's probably cervical mucus, but it could also be the lube, or your own fluids, or his ejaculate.

[lilclerk.livejournal.com]

I have to agree with everything you said in that first paragraph. I've never had an orgasm from intercourse alone, but he always wanted to go down on me first. I always had an orgasm from that, but I liked getting to the orgasm more than having it. You know? Even from masturbation. It's just not what everyone makes it seem to be.

Maybe it's just that I really wasn't excited by him. I've only had one sexual partner (I'm workin' on changing that now, though.) I dunno. Maybe I'm just weird.

[prizmdonna.livejournal.com]

Sounds to me that the white sticky fluid is just your discharge. That happens with me sometimes. I get a lot of discharge. Maybe your body's changing in some way that's causing my discharge? Pregnancy sounds like it could be the culprit.

Another possibility is that you might be having the start of a yeast infection. I'd keep an eye on my discharge and any other yeasty symptoms.

As far as orgasms go, try a vibrator. They don't work for me AT ALL, but they do work for most of my friends. Give it a shot! :-)

- donna

[fairis.livejournal.com]

so is it true what they say - that some females just don't have orgasms?

I have never heard that and I doubt that it is true. Some people don't have orgasms very often, and some people are satisfied without orgasms, but I think it's possible for everyone to have one. I have a harder time having an orgasm if I'm worried about it and thinking to much about it. Maybe you're just worrying about it too much.

[starkewpie.livejournal.com]

if you don't know if you've had one, then you haven't had one...

I felt the way you do until I was 20, thinking that some females just don't have them, and then WOW one day I had one! They're still kind of hard for me to get, but I am glad I started having them. I've only gotten them a couple times from sex alone, and it was because we were in a really good position. Usually I need a vibrator to help.

Vibrators are great. My favorite is the Wahl Coil because it's powerful but silent, and has very focused vibrations. It looks kind of like an eggbeater which is weird at first but it works. A lot of women like the Hitachi Magic Wand, which is a big wand with a big soft ball on the end. Magic Wands are louder and the vibrations are more spread out. Those are the plug in ones. I've bought several ones with batteries but the batteries always seem to run out at a bad time and they're not as strong as plug in ones.

Visit http://www.goodvibes.com ! You won't be disappointed with your new toy :)

Best wishes on the pregnancy situation, I hope you find out soon if you are or not, and that things go the way you want them to.