my body works!!!!!!
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vaginapaginaHey, VPers. I've been wanting to write this post for a while, but haven't had the chance. I'm glad I finally have a few minutes to do it.
I have always been one of those barely-orgasmic women who hardly ever climaxes during masturbation or partner sex unless I or my partner is doing that one-special-thing-with-my-legs-here-and-his-fingers-there-and-all-the-stars-are-in-alignment. I have a huge libido and my lack of ability to orgasm has always been really upsetting for me, which makes sex really frustrating. I've kind of gotten on by just not talking about my lack of orgasms until I've been with someone for several months and feel comfortable saying hey, you know, I'd really like to cum, and I hope you love me enough to learn how to help, please, and don't look at me funny? I've been masturbating since forever, but when you can only get off by lying on your stomach and grinding against something, it gets really boring.
And then, a few weeks ago, I slept with a friend of a friend, and he was going down on me and bam: orgasm. And not only that, but I female ejaculated. Holy crap. It was quite possibly one of the most exciting experiences of my life. It was super amazing. We started going at it again later in the evening, and I orgasmed from penetration and his fingers. I don't think I could be more surprised. I totally thought I was just going to be sexually frustrated for the rest of my life.
I would love to be able to "practice" with him a few times so that I could gain some confidence and muscle memory, but unfortunately, we live in different places. But since that's not possible, it's at least really fantastic to feel like my body isn't broken and it does just take time and experience. I'll definitely be more open with partners and more patient with my own body from here on out.
I know that there are often posts on VP about orgasmic abilities, so I hope a few women will benefit from reading this.
Edited to add: I'm 24 and have been having sex for seven years. So, when I say experience, I don't mean like, two months. :)
I have always been one of those barely-orgasmic women who hardly ever climaxes during masturbation or partner sex unless I or my partner is doing that one-special-thing-with-my-legs-here-and-his-fingers-there-and-all-the-stars-are-in-alignment. I have a huge libido and my lack of ability to orgasm has always been really upsetting for me, which makes sex really frustrating. I've kind of gotten on by just not talking about my lack of orgasms until I've been with someone for several months and feel comfortable saying hey, you know, I'd really like to cum, and I hope you love me enough to learn how to help, please, and don't look at me funny? I've been masturbating since forever, but when you can only get off by lying on your stomach and grinding against something, it gets really boring.
And then, a few weeks ago, I slept with a friend of a friend, and he was going down on me and bam: orgasm. And not only that, but I female ejaculated. Holy crap. It was quite possibly one of the most exciting experiences of my life. It was super amazing. We started going at it again later in the evening, and I orgasmed from penetration and his fingers. I don't think I could be more surprised. I totally thought I was just going to be sexually frustrated for the rest of my life.
I would love to be able to "practice" with him a few times so that I could gain some confidence and muscle memory, but unfortunately, we live in different places. But since that's not possible, it's at least really fantastic to feel like my body isn't broken and it does just take time and experience. I'll definitely be more open with partners and more patient with my own body from here on out.
I know that there are often posts on VP about orgasmic abilities, so I hope a few women will benefit from reading this.
Edited to add: I'm 24 and have been having sex for seven years. So, when I say experience, I don't mean like, two months. :)
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Date: 2009-07-30 06:17 pm (UTC)if it happened for you it could happen for me!! but more exciting for you is that it happened at all, I'm sure. I hope it continues for you!
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Date: 2009-07-30 08:42 pm (UTC)