to wet?

[bluegurl182.livejournal.com]

hi all,

so sometimes when i'm having sex with my bf, he says i get really wet. which is good i know. but is it possible to be too wet? sometimes it causes him to slip out. is there anything I can do?

also is it strange for a woman to not have feeling in her breasts? I don't get any pleasure from that, I wonder why that it is?

thanks

Comments

[sarahrm.livejournal.com]

I don't know anything about being too wet and stopping that.

But I don't get any pleasure out of my breasts as well. Never have even before I had my daughter.

[hold-fast.livejournal.com]

There really isn't a lot you can do about your natural lubrication. Just be grateful you don't have too little? And I didn't get much pleasure out of my breasts until I got pregnant, and I hear the sensitivity goes away after that anyway.

[agata.livejournal.com]

I don't get pleasure from my breasts either!

[jmnstars.livejournal.com]

I only get real pleasure from breast stimulation if he's a little rough...but not too rough. It's a science I tell ya'!

[x-memoirs.livejournal.com]

Same here, and even then it's not "omg gonna cream myself" kind of pleasure.

[tokio.livejournal.com]

Every once in a while during really, really long sex, I'll have to get up and wipe myself off. I'm so in the mood by that point that half the lubrication comes right back anyway and isn't a problem thereafter.

My breasts used to provide absolutely no pleasure at all. Some of it was because I'd just lost around 95 lbs., and my breasts were stringy, but I hadn't really paid much attention to them before anyway. It was partially because of my flat nipples, which would not become erect unless I was either very warm or very cold. So, to make my breasts more visually appealing to myself and provide sensitivity, I got my nipples pierced. The result of this horrifying, expensive experience has elicited a new love and appreciation for my breasts.

I got STUPID, STUPID advice from the piercer, who had NEVER pierced flat nipples before (she didn't know she was supposed to make them hard first, I guess because she didn't know they COULD get hard). She got one of the piercings very crooked. The next day I went back and told her I wanted it repierced, so she told me to take it out immediately.

I didn't know this was bad advice. So I took it out and was going to wait six months to go back, as per her directions. Afterward, the more experienced piercer there told me I really needed to watch out for infection, that she'd made a huge mistake telling me to take it out.

While I was developing an infection I did not know about, I met my current boyfriend. I noticed my breast was warm to the touch. I went to many cheap clinics where I was prescribed antibiotics. None of them appeared to work. In October of '07, my breast had swelled up a cup size and there was a visible lump where the infection was like an alien growth. At work, I was stocking binders when one fell and hit me in the breast. I left work immediately and went back to a clinic. We realized that the situation was incredibly dire three days later when, as I was putting on my bra and uniform to go to work, I noticed my breast was GREEN, there were purple veins all over my breast, and it was extremely hot and sore to the touch.

I went to the ER where I stayed for 11 days. The experience was horrific. Finally, when they realized the antibiotics were not returning my breast to its previous state, after experiencing a horrible accident caused by a nurse with an IV, after numerous x-rays, after horribly painful sonograms of my breast, a surgeon rushed into my room and wheeled me into surgery, where they drained 3oz of pus and cut the infection out. There was a gaping hole in my breast. I could see to the bottom of it. I felt, once again, like a piece of my womanhood had been stripped of me, similar, but not as severe, to how I felt when I was raped two years earlier around the same time.
We had to pack the wound with a ribbon-like gauze and dress it every single day until January of the next year.

My boyfriend was with me at the hospital every single damn day, bless my lover's heart, and I think it traumatized him to see me like that, especially so early in our relationship. A little less than a year ago, I took the other piercing out. I didn't realize how much the piercing had kept me from appreciating my breasts. And, now, I can't get enough of it when they're paid attention to. They've returned to their fullness after maintaining my weight loss. There's a crescent moon of a scar on my right breast now, and the nipple doesn't really get hard and pointy like "most other girls," which was the purpose of the piercing in the first place. So, whenever I'm aroused and my boyfriend/I am playing with them, one nipple gets hard and cute while the other gets really firm in a weird way. At first, I didn't want anyone to see it. I called it my Frankentit. Now I couldn't possibly love my breasts any more than I do, and I think it's a shame that it took such a traumatic experience (and roughly $40,000) to make me appreciate them. If I'd just loved them before, this wouldn't have happened to me. On the flipside, if this hadn't happened, it's possible I never would have learned to love them.

[spiritualorchid.livejournal.com]

I just wanted to say that I had an experience that was a little like yours. I got my nipples pierced, they got infected (probably because the guy who pierced them was an idiot), and I took them out... which made the infection worse. I didn't end up having to have surgery (though my doctor told me it was a possibility), but the experience really made me love and appreciate my breasts.

So, thank you for sharing your story. :)

[tokio.livejournal.com]

I'm glad to hear from others who have been through a similar experience. At the time, I felt really isolated and cut off from humanity. I guess hospitals do that to people.

[incarnated-joy.livejournal.com]

...my breasts just turned inwards and tried to face the other way! Oh my god that sounds awful! I am so so sorry you had to go through that cause of an idiot allowed near a piercing gun! :(

[tokio.livejournal.com]

Ooh, not a piercing gun, no. I think the only areas that get pierced with guns are the ears. Anything else should be done with a needle, just so you know!

Can I ask what you mean by turned inwards?

[incarnated-joy.livejournal.com]

I mean they shuddered and convulsed in sheer fear at the very thought and tried to hide round my back. It really did make me feel quite ill to read all that, the incompetence of some people...with a needle (I'm a piercing noob, my ears is enough for me!) is really scary :|

[tokio.livejournal.com]

Ohhh! I thought you meant, "I had a fiasco with my boobs but it wasn't nearly as bad as yours." I'm a little delirious with pain right now so I'm not as clear-headed as I usually am.

I found out some new "gossip" about Big Buddha, the place I was pierced, a few months after it all happened. I was applying at a job and the manager and I hit it off right away. He asked me why I left my previous job, and I said, "Well, I had a health scare as a result of a piercing gone awry, but it's not a very interview-friendly story." He told me he'd been a professional piercer for 12 years, so I told him about Big Buddha.

He told me about this lady who used to work at Big Buddha. I told him I wanted to be pierced by her because I heard she was really good, and he told me that she'd completely dropped off the face of the planet, that she was running from the cops. Apparently, she was so into drugs that she left her infant and her four year old daughter home alone at night to go hook up with a guy in her life who supplied drugs in exchange for sex. The baby woke up the toddler, who didn't know what to do, so she bundled the baby up and left the house in the middle of a February night to walk the streets trying to find her mom. Someone found the toddler in her pajamas walking down a major street here (and our streets are VERY dangerous for pedestrians, let alone CHILDREN, because most of the streets in Texas cities have at least seven lanes, and this particular street they found her on doesn't even have a median) holding the baby, both of them crying for their mother and freezing, a few blocks away from the tattoo parlor.

In addition to this, she lost her piercing license because two 16 year old girls wanted clitoral hood piercings. She did them without parental consent, and, as anyone knows, those piercings are very difficult to take care of. She told the kids to come back if they ever had any problems. The piercings became infected quickly. The parents of both kids rained HELLFIRE down on the place, trying to sue, but they had no recourse because the place doesn't have insurance, which, stupidly, is NOT required in Texas. Ugh. Just a fucking terrible place.

On top of that, the lady who botched my piercing told me she was about to be licensed for a very risky type of piercing called a microdermal, which basically just pierces a pocket in the skin in a shape similar to what a nostril-screw looks like, and was also about to be licensed for suspensions (where someone is pierced with hooks and then hung for a certain amount of time, which people do for adrenaline rushes and spiritual reasons, kind'f like walking coal fires). I can't even imagine the trouble she's getting into. Ugh ugh ugh ugh ugh. The entire situation completely disgusts me. I want that place shut down but there is NOTHING I can do about it. Absolutely nothing. It really upsets me to think about it.

[spiritualorchid.livejournal.com]

Hood piercings are actually very easy take care of. You'd don't need to do much with them for them to heal.

That said, the rest of your comment--yikes! There's no health board you can send a complaint to? :/

[tokio.livejournal.com]

The kids who went in didn't want them because they knew anything about them, though. They wanted them because they thought it would make them seem really cool and it would be something to brag about. From what I remember of the story, the kids were just little punkass girls who thought that piercings were like toys, he made them out to sound pretty stupid. I imagine they probably got infected from over-washing, changing the jewelry, or something like that. The piercers there don't really discuss things like that with people. If a supposedly experienced piercer can give horrible advice on a nipple piercing to someone who is more educated about her body and piercings (I still blame myself a little bit for not knowing everything I knew that fateful afternoon), then a much shadier piercer could give horrible advice to a set of teenage girls who just want bragging rights to all their friends. I'm willing to bet money that it got infected because they tried to change the jewelry to something "cooler," like how the average person getting pierced opts for the fancier jewelry rather than the one that will promote better healing or they freaked out and tried to take it out/their parents made them take it out.

[tokio.livejournal.com]

By the way, if you're ever in Lubbock, TX (for anyone who read my story), do not get pierced by anyone at Big Buddha. They suck and they don't have insurance.

[extraneousrooot.livejournal.com]

"All women get immense sexual pleasure from their breasts being touched" is one of those myths that we're raised to believe that is very rarely true. My nipples occasionally bring me pleasure but mostly it just tickles when I or a partner touch them and touching my breasts. When I was younger I used to be insecure about it, like I thought there was something wrong with me since I didn't burst into spontaneous orgasm when a partner touched my breasts. But after gaining a little confidence and realizing that porn is not life and talking to other women I realized it's just another Big Sex Lie that we're taught.

And right now they are so big and sore that anyone who touched them would lose, at the least, a few fingers!

[pyraterose.livejournal.com]

I don't really think it's the touching or whatever of my boobs that turns me on, I think it's more watching him do it that does it for me. And it seems to make him happy, so whatever floats his boat, I guess XD

[ladyslittleone.livejournal.com]

I don't get pleasure from breast stimulation unless I'm very aroused.

As for the "slipping out" factor, my girlfriend (who also has this issue) advises to work on positioning and kegels- You may be able to grip your partner more effectively.

[applefaerie.livejournal.com]

Kegels actually force my guy out of me when I'm wet.

[x-memoirs.livejournal.com]

Cumming forces my guy out, which really blows because I love feeling him inside me when I cum. I have that problem with kegels every once in awhile, though. I thought it was just me.

[archangelbeth]

I like bosom kneading, but... Well, when I first started, I had about zip-all feeling, any more than my elbow had feeling and somewhat less. Because I liked the visuals, I encouraged sucking there anyway, now and then, and it started to have a subliminal arousing effect -- I didn't really feel it in the breast, but areas lower-down started feeling more frisky, if you know what I mean.

After having a kid and nursing her a bit over 3 years, IIRC, I somehow got porntastic nipple sensation. O_o (I still prefer to work up to things with a nice massage, though.)

So anyway: it's totally normal. If you stimulate them enough anyway, you may someday get sensation in the breasts/nipples, which may be all that and a bag of chips. But even if you don't get that, or it's not all that and a bag of chips, still normal and don't fret about it. Focus on your erogenous zones, not the media's. O:>

[paperispatient.livejournal.com]

I get crazy-wet. My partners have, on occasion, had to dry their faces off and wipe up after going down on me - fortunately, they've all found it a turn-on.

I enjoy having things done to my boobs, but they're not high on the list. I love watching my partner touch them and suck on them, but I think that's more pleasurable to me than the actual stimulation. Gentle stimulation on my boobs doesn't do anything - if you're going to squeeze them or pinch my nipples, really go for it, don't hold back, you know?

You're definitely not alone in either of these things. :)

[x-memoirs.livejournal.com]

My boyfriend always has a shirt or a towel near by when he goes down on me. Or else my wetness gets caked into his beard, lol.

[spiritualorchid.livejournal.com]

Like archangelbeth and paperispatient said, watching a partner enjoy playing with my breasts is really hot. I mean, it feels good to have my breasts played with, but it's nothing like having my netherbits touched.

[tokio.livejournal.com]

By the way, I don't want anyone to take my comment the wrong way. I've been very fuzzy-headed today and I don't think I made myself clear enough. Essentially, breasts serve a biological function. As society has gotten further and further away from sex as a means of reproduction, the focus has become on physical pleasure. Pardon my diction here, but I think a lot of focus in most civilizations, particularly ones that are unspokenly yet clearly patriarchal, is sexual pleasure from a male point of view. A lot of us view our bodies as being abnormal vs. normal based on what we perceive others want us to be, which is immensely unfair and puts everyone, female-bodied and male-bodied and female-minded and male-minded alike, at a distinct disadvantage. Are we too sensitive? Should we be able to orgasm from penetration alone? Are we not sensitive enough? Why can we only get off in certain ways? Is the way we masturbate the same way as everyone else masturbates? From my point of view, sexuality should be determined by the individual with very little regard to a unified sense of what is deemed appropriate by ridiculous standards. For example, there are standards in place that protect children from being taken advantage of by people of any age, and this is something that should be reinforced, but there are standards in place that cause confusion among men and women about their own personal sexual identities, going so far as to strip us of our own sexual desires that are safe and completely ours, which is unfair. What I'm saying is that it's YOUR body. No one else should have jurisdiction over what is normal for you, what you like, what you dislike, or how your body reacts.

It's much easier said than done to say you won't worry about how others perceive normalcy. And there are strange, blurry lines involved. But, ultimately, the things we go through with our bodies are personal and we are taught not to speak of them openly, yet we are also condemned if we do not adhere to standards of sexuality that are in place. This is a paradox that most, if not all, women face at some point in their lives. And I did not mean to imply by my post that every female-bodied person should embrace their breasts in their sexual endeavors because it will lead to sexual fulfillment. What I meant to imply is that every female-bodied and female-minded person should embrace their breasts in a way that does not cause them emotional damage, in a way that is fulfilling for them, regardless of sexual standards, because, simply put, they are theirs, and theirs alone, to be shared or hidden or just simply there.

[mercy-rain.livejournal.com]

Breasts are not inherently sexual objects. In OUR culture, they are, but that's a CULTURAL assignation. In some cultures, they aren't at all, and to them, our boob-crazy men seem infantile. If your breasts aren't impressed by sexual attention, they aren't - there's nothing wrong with you. It may change someday - breast play used to do nothing for me, now it's good stuff - or it may not, and either way, it's okay.

[applefaerie.livejournal.com]

I get a lot of pleasure out of having my breasts played with. I used to be into a lot of pain dealt to my nipples specifically, now I can't stand pain dealt but do really enjoy teasing and more... classic, I guess, licking and the like.

[cluelessmuppet.livejournal.com]

The slipping out is more likely him, his technique, or muscle spasm on your part rather than the heavenly bliss of a woman than can slide.

If it's a spasm on your part -- he'll just have to learn to ride it better.

Him blaming you is kind of odd though, is it his habit to blame other people?

[cluelessmuppet.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah I've know women that get nothing from their breasts... which is on one hand a shame, but is great for them when it comes to breast feeding.

[bluegurl182.livejournal.com]

he's not really blaming me. it's just something i noticed when he says i'm really wet.

i do think it could be b/c he was drunk and it was a little rougher then normal

[litttlecreature.livejournal.com]

my nipples are wicked sensitive.. when i was younger i didn't get any pleasure at all from playing with em/having em touched. but now even having them lightly rubbed or anything at all makes me wet really fast. it feels super good to me, but i think it's also the anticipation of what's to come that turns me on.

as for being too wet, i've got the same deal goin on.. like a couple posters above said, my boy's gotta pretty much wipe himself off after he goes down on me, too. & he does slip out once in a while, but i think it's more the position or just being really into it that causes it to happen.

i'd say your totally normal on both points, dude.

[darkserena.livejournal.com]

I don't get much, if any sensation from my breasts being touched. Back when my boyfriend and I were first starting to fool around, we were going at it (dry humping and kissing, mostly; fully clothed), and I didn't even NOTICE he had slipped a hand into my shirt. I couldn't feel him touching my breast.

It bothers him because he LOVES breasts and I'm not comfortable with mine on top of not getting anything out of them being touched. I let him touch them sometimes, but only because HE likes it.

It's normal to not have much feeling there, and I've heard it's more common in women with largers breasts (I'm a D cup).

[snickersaddict.livejournal.com]

My nipples are sort of in the middle...they have sensation and I get pleasure from them but it's not a big thing. However, if they get played with roughly or bitten during sex or foreplay...it's a huge thing!

Also, I get very wet...with some partners it was very noticeable. I tell him that it's an indication of how much he turned me on.