I resent my vag. Having one feels like a part-time job

[lovethatlovage.livejournal.com]

Do any of you guys sometimes (or all the time) resent your vagina? In my case I'm a straight-ish female, idk if that matters at all.

Sometimes I get pretty disgusted with the amount of maintenance involved.

I also am prone to horrible UTIs, and then, the antibiotics give me a yeast infection. I'm talking UTIs so bad I want to cry and end up in the fetal position. Nothing over the counter even remotely touches them and I pretty much go straight to kidney infection mode if I don't get IMMEDIATE antibiotics in my system.

Tight pants give me BV, my period sometimes gives me yeast infections.

Sometimes I really have to work overtime to orgasm during sex.

I have a ton of pubic hair and when I want to shave it's like a damn hour long project.

I use the Diva cup so having to wash it out and generally dealing with that is a huge pain (once the initial novelty wore off) but I use it so I don't get tampon related dryness.

Oh...and...depending on where I am in my cycle it doesn't always smell nice.

When I was younger and first getting aquainted with my vag I tended to appreciate/celebrate it, the past couple years I just think it's a pain in the ass. Having a vagina feels like cramming another hobby or activity into an already overbooked schedule.

I guess I'm mostly wondering if anyone else feels this way or can empathize.

Comments

[vronwe.livejournal.com]

I don't resent my vagina, but I resent my uterus. I have no intention of using it, so having it around and having to take precautions against pregnancy is even more of a pain in the ass than I imagine it is for people who want to have babies someday. I wish I could have the thing taken out, but I don't want to take the risks of that kind of surgery, and nobody would take a healthy uterus out of a 22 year old.

[literarygirl.livejournal.com]

THIS! Fellow CFer here. **Waves**

I feel ya on that. Even though my husband got snipped (and I love him for that everyday!), I still wish I could get rid of my plumbing. At least the uterus. Keep the ovaries for the hormonal benefits, but get rid of the rest as far as I am concerned.

[oursadhearts.livejournal.com]

OMG. I'm exactly the same way, down to the age.

I hear you, sister. I love my vagina, She's fucking great, but my uterus can shrivel for all I care.

[analogwatch.livejournal.com]

I used to say that in high school but always ended it with "... if I didn't need it to have kids someday."

Actually, if I could just, like... rent it, on a part-time basis, that'd be great.

Re: empathy your way!

[oursadhearts.livejournal.com]

Oh, of course. Women are only brainless incubators for the future rulers of society, you know, pooping and screaming miracles.

Sigh. Doesn't make me resent my vagina as much as my uterus... ugh.

Re: empathy your way!

[oursadhearts.livejournal.com]

Oh, I know! It's amazing how people are so horrified by the fact that I have chosen not to have children. They seem to be in shock over the reality of my actually having a choice, even.

But then they tell me I'm just young and I'll change my mind. I'm 23. Yes, I'm young. Yes, my decision is definitely influenced by my pitiful childhood. But at least I'm aware of how inadequate I would be as a mother, before making another being suffer. And hell, before I make myself suffer.

I've got to hand it to the mothers out there. It's a very difficult, thankless job. And I admire them for being able to handle it.

[thedastardfunk.livejournal.com]

YES!

I can't take bubble baths or sit in hot tubs because I'll get a UTI. Whenever I get a UTI, it takes forEVER to clear up, and twice I've had to go to the ER for a catheter because I couldn't pee. I thankfully don't have to work hard to orgasm, but I make a gigantic mess with my squirting, and even though my boyfriend doesn't mind it, I find it embarrassing. My pubic hair is everywhere and screaming infidelities. It takes me about an hour, and I have to contort my body into weird shapes so that I can get all of the hair shaved off.

I definitely know how you feel :(

[vdoeschallenge.livejournal.com]

lol A+ on the reference. my hair is like that too. i can never get it all to go away and after i try to shave or trim it gets on everything.

[thedastardfunk.livejournal.com]

LOL! :P I'm glad you got it.

[osexigu.livejournal.com]

Your post made me laugh but no...

I don't get UTI's and I use tampons and my periods last about 2 days. They used to last about 6 days when I was a kid. Now it's like 2 days of heavyish flow and 1 maybe 2 days of light spotting. It's pretty spiffy.

My only complaint is it can get smelly near my period but meh. Other than that no complaits.

[arularia.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't classify my feelings as resentful, but there have definitely been times when I've wanted to sit down my vagina and reproductive system as a whole and go "Look, do we really have to do this right now?"

[crashhooligan.livejournal.com]

yeah, I think of mine similarly to how I think of my cat. He takes care of himself most of the time, just needs basic maintenance, and often times, he's fun and enjoyable, but sometimes he decides to fuck shit up and rip down the curtains and knock over my milk.

[arularia.livejournal.com]

HAHAHAHA!

Oh my goodness. I LOVE this analogy.

[pyraterose.livejournal.com]

Pussy = pussy I guess?

[arularia.livejournal.com]

Sorry, but I'm reading this comment again, and it really is just amazing. Would you be offended if I had it made into an icon or something?

[crashhooligan.livejournal.com]

Haha, sure. I was pretty proud of it myself, to be honest.

[emilymorgan.livejournal.com]

!!!

[torpedoed.livejournal.com]

this!!

[what-a-charmer.livejournal.com]

HAHA!

Beautiful, beautiful analagy! I love it so much!

[goddessdeath.livejournal.com]

I feel like this sometimes. Right now I'm more irritated with my ovaries and the fact that they don't like to ovulate properly.

[kalaam.livejournal.com]

same. they're not cooperating. it's pissing me off.

[ascendings.livejournal.com]

i feel the same way as you right now :(

[16-bit-goddess.livejournal.com]

You are my twin, I empathize with you completely. I am prone to UTIs and am basically incapable of orgasming from sex. I look at men and am unbelievably envious of how they can cum every time they have sex. It also seems so ludicrous to me that our genitalia is so touchy that if (god forbid) we wear the wrong underwear or it's too hot outside or we have too much sex or some other stupid shit, we run the risk of getting a painful infection. I think vaginas are lame. At least once a day, I wish I was born with a dick. lol.

I'd like to make some suggestions for the UTI problem because I know how horrible and painful that can be--cut out carbonated beverages (especially soda) and invest in some d-mannose powder or capsules. These two changes completely rid me of UTIs, which I used to develop every time I had sex (which was great fun, let me tell you). Yes, vaginas can suck, but we're stuck with them, so we gotta learn to work with what we have!

[pqowlaks.livejournal.com]

I love your icon

[christmasz.livejournal.com]

Hey can you share how you get rid of the UTI? I have the same problem. everytime i have sex i have UTI. Im so sick of eating antibiotics. =)

[christmasz.livejournal.com]

Hey can you share how you get rid of the UTI? I have the same problem. everytime i have sex i have UTI. Im so sick of eating antibiotics. =)

[mirxlucius.livejournal.com]

Honestly, as fucked up as vaginas can be, I love mine. The most intense physical pleasure I have ever felt has been from vaginal stimulation, and it is just great overall.

It is tedious to make sure you aren't going to cause a UTI/YI every day by doing something minor as using the wrong soap, but I am pretty sure I understand my physical anatomy enough to make sure I prevent these things 90% of the time.


(However, if I had a yeast infection right now, I would type you an angry paragraph in caps about how much I want to have a sex change and how much vaginas need to DIAF, metaphorically!)

[coldliberation.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I feel this way about my periods, hormones, blah. it's all horrendous.

god did such a wonderful job creating us, eh? lol :p

[wernotalone.livejournal.com]

I feel it could be worse, we could have really embarrassing untimely erections.

[coldliberation.livejournal.com]

haha XD
I don't know, I think I'd rather have the erection than pretty much hemorrhaging for months at any given time.

[frolicnaked.livejournal.com]

This was kind of what I was thinking. Embarrassment v. debilitating pain.

I feel like my pride would learn to cope.

[foureyedgirl.livejournal.com]

Ugh me too. I've had at least three UTIs in the past three years, yeast infections and bv all mixed in there. I itch all the time no matter what, I'm a hairy beast and yeah it just sucks and I don't think of it as a hobby but of a chore and a burden. Having a vagina pretty much sucks.

[torpedoed.livejournal.com]

i don't feel like i resent my vag, but i do think it is seriously another hobby. i feel like a good majority of my life revolves around having a vagina.. lol. i've never had a UTI, thank god, or any sort of infection down there, but even without that i feel like it runs a good portion of my life.

[activist-woman4.livejournal.com]

I don't know if resent is the right word, but honestly for the 2 weeks (half my life!) of ever month that I'm all moody, cloudy-brained, cramping, crying, or bleeding, I ask my husband pretty much once a day if we can switch bodies. He's amazing and responds that if there were ANY way at all to do that, he'd do it in a second...but since I'm all in pain and cranky I just say, "No, you wouldn't!" I used to not mind so much, but lately I've been hating it more and more.

[what-a-charmer.livejournal.com]

I've been lucky so far (OMG KNOCK WOOD NOW) and have not had a UTI since I was a kid, I orgasm relatively easily, I've yet to have a yeast infection, and my periods aren't horrific.

And yet sometimes, sometimes, I'll have days from hell. I'll have conversations in the shower with my reproductive system, and I don't often say nice things, especially around the time of my period.

But I've been learning to embrace it (sometimes I wish I could hug it!) as much as possible.

[gemfyre.livejournal.com]

My cooch behaves 99% of the time, the hair doesn't bother me, and I find my Mooncup to be an utter godsend, so I don't resent it.

To me it's just there. I don't really think much about it at all.

[nightchild01.livejournal.com]

I feel this way about my uterus 'cause I'm not gonna use it and I think it's ridiculous that I've had to deal with periods every month for seven days every month since I was almost 10 (started a month before I turned 10) and will have to keep just dealing with PMMD/bleeding for a week for a good several more years. I also feel angry at my vagina a lot 'cause I pretty much always have a yeast infection, even though I do everything I can to prevent them. I feel angry at my boobs 'cause they stayed at a nice, manageable A for about five years but have grown to at least a B, possibly a C over the last year, which is forcing me to start wearing bras again, which I hate like nothing else.

[lovethatlovage.livejournal.com]

"which is forcing me to start wearing bras again, which I hate like nothing else"

Gah, me too! I have a large B and I never fucking wear one, except to work. I hate how if you don't wear one in 99% of situations where someone else can see you it's "inappropriate."

[nightchild01.livejournal.com]

I hate that too. I also don't like how my breasts look in a bra. It makes them look fake to me. I usually just go without unless it's something fancy. It drives my sister crazy 'cause of how "inappropriate" it is to not strap my chest down and morph it into a perfectly round shape.

[lovethatlovage.livejournal.com]

My aunt is the female in my life who it drives totally crazy. She's always buying me bras as gifts and thinks if I'm around her BF (who's 10 years younger then her, closer to my age really) w/o a bra I'm trying to sleep with him.

I also *gasp* don't shave my legs that often. I'm surprised she's never fainted.

[nightchild01.livejournal.com]

That would drive me crazy. I'm not sure why my sister thinks it's so wrong. Meh... I only wear a bra if I'm gonna be wearing a shirt it's really really obvious in or if it's some sort of special event. I tell people that my boobs are Free Range. lol

I don't shave my legs that often, either! Like. Once a week, once every two weeks, even in the summer.

[lovethatlovage.livejournal.com]

Ummm, I wear a bra to work just to minimize any possible attention being paid to my breasts. For some reason when people catch a glimpse of a nipple through a shirt it's sooooo much worse then cleavage (one of my huge gripes right there as well).

I think my female relatives see it as "whorey" vs free spirited or relaxed.

[airenwoodmoon.livejournal.com]

I've resented my vagina when it played ping pong between a yeast and a BV infection for nearly a year. Dropped the boyfriend and that stopped though, thank god. But I can completely empathize with just about everything you brought up.

My vagina would be okay now if everything else attached to it would just go away. I resent my ovaries and uterus so much. They make my vag hurt, make it nearly impossible for me to enjoy orgasms now, and generally have made my life a living hell.

[frolicnaked.livejournal.com]

I resent my ovaries and uterus so much. They make my vag hurt, make it nearly impossible for me to enjoy orgasms now, and generally have made my life a living hell.

This. This, so much. And trying to keep my uterus in check has caused problems with several other aspects of my being.

[archangelbeth]

Mine tends to behave itself, so I don't resent it -- but I can entirely understand why you might!

I have discovered that after years of trimming down to soft stubble, if I let it grow more than about a week, it starts itching. That was annoying. Yeah, I prefer it trimmed, but now I can't lapse for a couple weeks without getting irritated? Feh!

*offers hugs and empathizing*

[h0rsegurrrl.livejournal.com]

The vag and I used to have a good relationship, but within the last year and a half or so I really just want to trade it in for a new one. I'm so sick of how finicky and high-maintenance it is.

[kyleann.livejournal.com]

This whole entire post is making me laugh a lot. My vagina has pretty much cooperated with me all my life; I've never had heavy periods, no YI, I can orgasm pretty easily. But since I started running on a regular basis, me and my vagina hate each other. I am getting YI allllll the time now. I have done everything I can think of to prevent them. I use fragrance free detergent, soap doesn't go near my vag, I don't wear thongs, my running clothes are breathable. But no, that's not enough for my vag. And Diflucan only lasts so long. Being in a hot and sweaty environment for longer than an hour makes my vagina angry. Stupid thing, that's what I get for trying to be healthy.

[shyshutterbug.livejournal.com]

I have a serious hate-hate relationship with my reproductive organs as a whole. Between precocious puberty, an imperforate hymen, vestibulodynia, vaginismus, PCOS, endometriosis, hemorrhage-worthy periods, and a host of gynecological cancers that run in my family, I have absolutely nothing to thank them for.