Birth Control Side Effect- Intimacy Need?

[airenwoodmoon.livejournal.com]

I just started thinking about this and had to wonder if this could be chalked up to a side effect of HBC or is my own crazy little mind.

I've noticed that ever since I started HBC (15 months or so ago) that I have this elevated need for intimacy. I know I already have a high libido and take care of it myself, but for the past year I've just gotten really depressed that I can't have sex. And I think it's the intimacy that I'm craving, not the orgasms (I can take care of those myself).

Now I know depression is a side effect and I know I've got it, but has anyone else had this weird, hormonal "have to find a mate NOW" type thing? Or is it just me? I always thought it was me and I have something screwed up in my head that I can't rationalize myself out of it, but then I started to wonder if I was giving off some fuzzy hormone like that study that claims to show that women on birth control are more likely to pick a "bad" mate for themselves compared to women off HBC.

And as a totally random side question- anyone have any tips on going through menopause? XP

Comments

[airenwoodmoon.livejournal.com]

Yeah I figured they had to be. I was just curious.

Actually I don't feel any of that pressure. I even know that this is not a good point of time in my life to date and I really don't want to deal with someone else at all- but I still get intensely lonely. Guess it is all just in my head. Thanks.

[airenwoodmoon.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately my cat doesn't like said hugs. I'll just have to torture her more then. XD

Thanks. :)

[ohathena.livejournal.com]

I definitely have points in time where it feel like some hormonally-induced extra need to be cuddled/cherished/needed/etc kicks in, and I'm assuming it has something to do with my chemicals because I will go through periods of time where I'm perfectly happy doing my own thing for a couple of weeks, and then BAM it hits: omg-need-mate-love-now for a few days.

Even if it isn't a hormonal thing, I definitely don't think that you are screwed up in the head for craving companionship and intimacy, whether physical or emotional. *hugs* I find the intimacy craving kicks in more when my depression goes into hyperdrive, because that's when I'm more vulnerable and lonesome. I hope you find a tasty Belgian chocolate lover to satisfy your needs! Good luck!

[airenwoodmoon.livejournal.com]

Yay, thank you. :) I can tell myself that I really don't need/want anything and something else in my brain just keeps screaming "yes you do!" It's annoying and illogical and I'm glad I'm not alone.

*hugs* I know the depression has a lot to do with it and I can't wait to get off these pills (and on to something worse, but oh well). Thanks so much for replying.