vaginapagina | Pregnancy Scare (Reply)

This journal is an obvious sock, mainly because I don't want friends in real life to read this, because of their views on abortion. I have come to the decision that if I am pregnant, I will go through with one.

Forgive me if I seem overly paranoid or uneducated. Previously I was only involved with women (I thought I was completely uninterested in men for many years) and had no reason to worry and then was celibate for many years. I am technically a "virgin" as neither toys nor a penis have ever penetrated me. I am not sure whether or not I have vaginismus, but it was never really a concern because none of my girlfriends was really into penetrating me with anything but a finger or two.

Here are the facts:

Over Labor Day weekend my boyfriend and I went on our first trip together and while we were there we engaged in some sexual activity, basically oral and manual sex for the most part. On either Saturday or Sunday we engaged in some dry humping where we were completely unclothed, and his penis was in contact with my vulva and clitoris, although for the most part it was the base of his penis. I am ABSOLUTELY SURE he was not inside me whatsoever, not even for a moment, and that if the head was near my entrance, it was very fleeting. I also know he had not ejaculated for almost 48 hours, if not longer, and that he had peed many times over those days. He also did not ejaculate during the dry humping whatsoever, or anywhere near me for the rest weekend. The only possible thing that could have gotten anywhere near my vagina would have been pre-ejaculate, which I have been researching and seems to not have any sperm in it unless the man has previously ejaculated and not peed in between.

My last period began the 21st of August and lasted around 4 days, as is normal. I have only started tracking my period since I started becoming sexually active again, but I have done so religiously and it has fluxuated (between 25-29 days) before settling into 29 days the past three months. At the time I write this, my period is almost two full days late, as it is Saturday and I should have gotten my period Thursday. I caught a cold on the 5th and it was over around the 12th. Since I have come back from vacation I have been under a lot of stress due to my university courses, much more than normal, and the fact that my schedule has been greatly changed since the summer months because I have a lot of early courses.

I am a person who obsessively worries, but I have looked up the possible symptoms of pregnancy and I do not seem to have any, apart from the late period and fatigue, which I believe could be chalked up to the sickness and the change in schedule. Yesterday I began drinking parsley tea (1 tbsp dry to 1 cup hot water) in order to try and induce the period. I drank 8 cups over the course of yesterday and have drank 4 cups today. Over the past two days I have experienced mild menstrual cramps (probably because of the tea) which usually accompany the beginning of my period but I haven't even spotted yet.

I guess what I am asking is how likely is it that I am pregnant, and would it be any good to try a HPT (any reccomendations as to brand in the US would be appreciated) as I would probably view a negative result as false anyway?

My boyfriend thinks that we should wait until the period is overdue a week and then try a doctor's appointment.

Just as an aside, I am not on BC, but I was scheduled to have an IUD inserted during this period, which is why we we have not attempted penetrative sex.