The main reason I ask is because my boyfriend is determined to help me with this,
I guess one thing that strikes me is that the idea of "helping someone with this" implies that your, uh, orgasm statistics are abnormal or problematic. And I understand that they may be problematic for you, but they aren't abnormal or a problem in themselves, you know what I mean?
And I know how guys can push to "help" a lot. Both of my long-term partners started out like that too -- determined to "help." Once I sat down and talked with them and made it clear that me not orgasming wasn't about them, or their lack of talent or ability, but just how my body was wired, they eased up a lot, and we all had much more fun going forward.
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Re: my personal experience
Date: 2008-06-20 03:47 pm (UTC)I guess one thing that strikes me is that the idea of "helping someone with this" implies that your, uh, orgasm statistics are abnormal or problematic. And I understand that they may be problematic for you, but they aren't abnormal or a problem in themselves, you know what I mean?
And I know how guys can push to "help" a lot. Both of my long-term partners started out like that too -- determined to "help." Once I sat down and talked with them and made it clear that me not orgasming wasn't about them, or their lack of talent or ability, but just how my body was wired, they eased up a lot, and we all had much more fun going forward.