I need help-HIV?

[honey-bun44.livejournal.com]

 

HIV and really scarred?
I never had sex before, because i am always scrared!
but the other week the guy I really like fingered me for the first time and he pulled out his penis and he had some fluids which I think it was pre-ejuclation fluid, and I think his penis touched my vagina for about five seconds. Three days later I got and HIV it came back negative...but in my mind I know I have to wait awhile to get that test done (I think like 6 months). I am so scarred I might might have contracted HIV from him-(I don't know if he has it or not). His penis did not go inside my vagina. and the liquid that comes during arousal is pre-ejucalation...right?

so while I am waiting to get another test done....what are my chances? :(

Comments

[mari-mac1109.livejournal.com]

It's really hard to know if you could have contracted it without knowing if he had it, so I would really, really suggest sitting down and talking to him about it. And, if you want to continue having a sexual relationship with him, maybe you two should go to a clinic and get tested together.

If he doesn't have HIV, you can't contract it from him. If he does, there's a chance you could have, but I'd say it's pretty low.

[leastlikely.livejournal.com]

My best advice would be to talk to the guy, before you get yourself super worked up over it.

While I can't say that there's absolutely no chance of contracting HIV... the fact that you don't know if he is infected makes me think that he probably isn't. Maybe I am a little naive in thinking this, but I'd like to believe that most people who have STDs/STIs (especially ones as serious as HIV) are up-front and open with their partners about it, and practice safer sex. I don't know this guy, so I can't that he was either honest or dishonest with you. However, you do have a right to feel safe. So... even if you do choose to get another test done just to be sure - you should really talk to him about it. Just make sure that you're both on the same page.

[missjecka.livejournal.com]

We can't tell you your chances since we don't know your partner's sexual history. You should ask him if he has been tested lately and if so, what the results were.

[jennifer0246.livejournal.com]

HIV and other viruses and infections are contained in body fluids, like pre-ejaculate. what you're describing does have some element of fluid exchange so there is a risk, though certainly a lower one than if you'd had intercourse to completion. you can absolutely be retested at appropriate intervals, and i'd suggest speaking with your health care provider about contraceptive options and infection prevention. do you need any information from us about those topics?

[queensugar.livejournal.com]

Your risk is just extraordinarily, incredibly, amazingly, unbelievably low.

I'll put it this way: if you have vaginal sex with an infected source, your chance of getting HIV is about 1 in 1000. (http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/rr5402a1.htm#tab1) Focus on that statistic for a moment: even if he definitely had HIV, and you had vaginal intercourse with him, your risk of getting HIV from that one act would be incredibly tiny.

Now, not only did you not have penetrative vaginal intercourse with him, but you do not know if he is HIV positive.

Although statistics on HIV rates vary significantly by area, in the developed world (like the United States and Canada), for the most part HIV infection is very rare -- especially if the person in question doesn't fall into certain higher-risk categories, i.e. intravenous drug users or men who have anal sex with men. Basically, if you take a random individual in the developed world, the chance that they have HIV is extremely small.

So in short -- as you know, you took an HIV test far too early to tell -- most people (http://www.hivtest.org/subindex.cfm?FuseAction=faq#exposure) will develop testable antibodies within 2-8 weeks (the average time to detectable antibodies is 25 days).

However, your individual risk of getting HIV from a single instance of non-penetrative intercourse with a partner who you do not know their STI status (and thus, statistically, is very unlikely to be HIV positive) is incredibly tiny. Just extremely, extraordinarily remote.

I hope this helps. I of course do not want to minimize how awful HIV is, and I certainly believe in taking all steps to protect one's self from HIV transmission. At the same time, the facts about HIV rates and transmission rates in the developed world tell us that any single given sexual encounter is statistically incredibly unlikely to lead to HIV infection.

[hardfem.livejournal.com]

just relax :)

talk to guy and ask him whether he has any stds to begin with. hiv is not a very long lived virus when there are no T cells around to infect. So, even if he were positive and even there was blood in that fluid, unless you had a wound and the fluid went there, you are probably fine. actually, hiv is a pretty hard virus to transmit (unlike herpes, for example). to keep your mind clear use precaution...