yeah, it does sound like you tore your perineum, so i would go see a doctor and make sure everything's okay down there before you continue.
in terms of sex really hurts... take it real slow. you might want to ask your husband to gently stimulate you with his hands, both inside and outside, and really, however you like. just make sure his nails are trimmed and filed and that his hands are clean. if he's up to it (and if you are) oral might relax you enough to take penetration.
the most important thing, i think, is to engage in a lengthy foreplay. lots of making out, touching, talking, etc. it makes the experience far more relaxed and gives you time to get completely aroused, making your vagina more likely to accommodate a penis.
ps- congratulations on being hitched. enjoy each other!
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Date: 2007-08-13 02:53 am (UTC)in terms of sex really hurts... take it real slow. you might want to ask your husband to gently stimulate you with his hands, both inside and outside, and really, however you like. just make sure his nails are trimmed and filed and that his hands are clean. if he's up to it (and if you are) oral might relax you enough to take penetration.
the most important thing, i think, is to engage in a lengthy foreplay. lots of making out, touching, talking, etc. it makes the experience far more relaxed and gives you time to get completely aroused, making your vagina more likely to accommodate a penis.
ps- congratulations on being hitched. enjoy each other!